Pregnancy after Severe Preeclampsia HELLP @ 23 wk

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Re: Pregnancy after Severe Preeclampsia HELLP @ 23 wk

Post by angieb » Tue Jul 23, 2013 09:16 pm

What awful awful things people have said to you! I don't know if I'd still be speaking to anyone that said something like that to me.

As far as trying again, my doctors advised me to wait 6 months for my c-section incision to heal. My lab work and everything else was normal before I left the hospital or they would have likely advised me to wait for my body to be as close to normal again as possible. I desperately wanted to be pregnant again as soon as possible but in hindsight I am glad it took me about a year to get pregnant again. The first year of grieving for your baby is so very hard, and subsequent pregnancies-even normal ones- after a loss are also extremely extremely difficult. It would have been really ugly, if I had gotten pregnant sooner.

Re: Pregnancy after Severe Preeclampsia HELLP @ 23 wk

Post by sam10 » Tue Jul 23, 2013 09:52 am

Oh good that you have already a doctor whom you seem comfortable with. It helps a lot to have a good support team, and that includes your doctors and nurses, during a subsequent pregnancy.

Re: Pregnancy after Severe Preeclampsia HELLP @ 23 wk

Post by rbea » Tue Jul 23, 2013 08:19 am

If I do decide to become pregnant again, we will be seeing a high risk specialist, I've met her and she seems very informed.
And she was very recommended by all the Doctors, I had seen her before when my nuchal translucency was a little high and she had bloodwork done and Arielle was a normal healthy girl at 15 wks.
This forum really has helped me.

Re: Pregnancy after Severe Preeclampsia HELLP @ 23 wk

Post by sam10 » Mon Jul 22, 2013 08:48 pm

This is a good place to vent :D Your feelings sound so familiar to me. I clearly remember that I thought I should have refused to give birth, refused to get a c-section and all would be fine.
We believe we have it all under control, until we realize we actually don't. PE makes that just so very clear. I stopped wondering whether this is fair or not. At some point I just accepted it (but it took quite a while and seemed like hard work).
Sorry you had your share of "well-meaning" comments. This is the last thing you need.

I developed PE around 20 weeks and delivered at 26. My second pregnancy was not PE free, but it started much later and I was able to bring home a healthy baby girl. Have you seen a high-risk OB (also called MFM) for a consultation? S/he would evaluate your case of PE and check your health background. Based on that you'd be given a re-currance risk that applies to you only. You would then also discuss your care during a pregnancy. Here is a list of high-risk doctors. Alternatively you can also check the online listings of your local hospital.

Sending you hugs

Re: Pregnancy after Severe Preeclampsia HELLP @ 23 wk

Post by rbea » Mon Jul 22, 2013 02:14 pm

Whereowhere, I am rooting for you!
Angie, I'm so happy for you and your expanding family.
Did the Doctor's advise either of you to not have another pregnancy, or give you a long wait time?
Lately I've been feeling like an empty vessel, I was so anxious for my daughter to come into this world.
I wanted to know if I can look forward to that same kind of happiness.
Thank you very much!
I'm still in so much grief that only women here will understand. Although I know that I am not alone losing a child, and grief will linger but dull as time will allow, a disease like this is hard to wrap around my brain. People who haven't had pre-e don't know how much of a guilt trip, frustrating, angry experience it can be. It's the thought of preeclampsia involving my body working against me, the fact that a baby with a beating heart is impossible to save without maternal death, the fact that there is no way to prevent it. It is like poison to my mind!
I always think now about how many weeks I would be, and how if I could have held on longer she could have been here in my presence, and able to see me like I've seen her, and felt her.
And sometimes I feel that maybe motherhood was never meant for me, maybe there is some underlying cause I'm not seeing, that God is trying to work his ways in something I am too small to understand, and be grateful he made it so. Makes me mad.
And I've had people who I hadn't even asked for advice tell me really dumb things. Even though I know they mean well, they say things like
"Don't worry you'll get pregnant again"
"God will come through for you, and you will have a child."
"Once you become spiritually whole, more connected to your husband then you are ready for a full grown baby."
Um, I'm not concerned right now with becoming pregnant, I mourn for Arielle (my daughter.)
Why are you giving me the connotation that God is testing my effectiveness of being a good person or whatever?

I'm not very religious like some of these well meaning people, but I know I took care of myself, I treat others well, I go to work. I do whatever I can.

I just vented right now.

Re: Pregnancy after Severe Preeclampsia HELLP @ 23 wk

Post by angieb » Sun Jul 21, 2013 08:18 pm

Hi there.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

We lost our daughter in 2009 after I developed HELLP at 23 wks. I have since had two relatively healthy pregnancies after it, a 36 weeker and 37 weeker and no HELLP or pre-e either time. I was on blood thinners and closely monitored by my MFM (a high risk doctor) and OB.

I'm nt great at checking this website, feel free to email me at if you have any other questions.

Re: Pregnancy after Severe Preeclampsia HELLP @ 23 wk

Post by whereowhere » Sun Jul 21, 2013 05:34 pm

Hi, I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you don't mind hearing from someone who hasn't delivered a live baby yet. But I am feeling hopeful. I lost twins last year at exactly 21 weeks. Today I am 30 weeks and 3 days with no signs of PE yet. I have made it more than 9 weeks past where I was last time. I hope it gives you some hope. They gave me a 60% chance of recurrence in a subsequent pregnancy. But so far so good...

Pregnancy after Severe Preeclampsia HELLP @ 23 wk

Post by rbea » Sun Jul 21, 2013 02:54 pm

I just needed to know if there was any successful pregnancies with women who have had severe Preeclampsia and HELLP earlier than 26 weeks.
Alive, healthy babies.

I almost died and I lost my daughter in the hospital and wanted to know if there was any realistic positive outlook.