Aww well thank you that means alot to me!

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Mom and I love and miss you very much.. Shane Andrew, April 25, 2004

Hi, Craig:

I just want to say that I REALLLY admire you for the way that you are looking for answers and are showing such deep love as a husband and a father. Though I too am incredibly sorry for your loss and that you even have a need to be on this site, your messages warmed my heart. Thank you.


Anika

Mommy to Isaiah Dumisani Millhouse
20 January - 17 February 2004
Born at 28 weeks due to severe pre-eclampsia
Died at 28 days old of pneumonia
610 grams at birth
950 grams at death
My Angel Boy
"My firstborn, I will never forget you, always love you, and never replace you"
[URL=http://www.babiesonline.com/babies/d/dumisani]Isaiah's Website[/URL]

Hi Craig,

I too will be taking injections every 12 hours during pregnancy. I really have always hated needles, but I don't think this will be all that bad. I've even tried a practice shot myself. The needle is so thin, and it just goes under the skin. I've heard from many women that after they get use to it, they don't even think twice about it.
I wish I didn't have to do it, but the potential benefit is well worth it. I don't think that heparin/lovenox can be taken orally.
Lisa

HI Craig,

I am so, so sorry about your baby. I can't help but feel
so full of compassion towards your wife. Please tell her that
regardless of the outcome she did everything she could at the time...
Those of us who lose a baby are initially very tormented by the "what if's?" For myself, it has helped to get as educated as possible when it comes to pre eclampsia. In terms of closure-
you have to find what works for you. Personally, I wrote a letter
to the high risk doctor that had managed part of my pregnancy-
a red flag was raised- when my triple screener came back high. I basically shared what I had learned and encouraged her to do things
differently with someone else that may walk into her office with
pre eclampsia or the potential risk of developing pre eclampsia.
I have another friend who is suing the pants off of her doctor.
She was always able to make it through her pregnancies by having
a cerclage placed. This new docor insisted that she did not
need one. One thing then lead to another and her daughter was
born at 20 weeks. Anyway, I'm so sorry Craig. Please tell your
wife that so many of us here can sympathize with her and you!
Take Care,


Gloria mom to Josiah 11/12/03- 12/4/03 @ 26wks pre e

Future Adoptive Mom

Craig-
Let me say how sorry I am for what you and your wife have been through-my thoughts are with you and your family. You have found an incredible resource here, the women and their knowledge is unbelievable.
A peri, is a perinataologist-a high risk o.b.-they should be able to review your wife's records. Hopefully they will find all the answers you are searching for. This is going to be a very long road for your family-you should know that you are not alone-unfortunately, there are many here that have lost their hearts to the death of their child.
Please keep us posted on how you all are doing.

Melissa Joi 32
DH Jeremy 43
mama to Peyton John 12/04/00 (severe pre-e @ 38wks)
2nd babe due 11/26/04

Thanks, I live in Allentown PA

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Mom and I love and miss you very much.. Shane Andrew, April 25, 2004

Craig,
A perinatologist is a high risk OB. You may hear the term MAternal fetal medicine doctor. Same thing. I am not sure were you live but 2 websites that may help you in locating one of these types of doctors are www.nasshp.org (these doc's specialize in hypertension in pregnancy) and www.smfm.org I hope this helps you. Goodluck...

Mada Harpster

Sam 6-29-00 36weeks P.E.
Ben 11-03-01 No P.E.

Thank you, I'll take your advise. I am just afraid of how it will feel if it is discovered that more could/should have been done. What is a Peri?

Thank you all so much, I hope one day I can return your kindness!

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Mom and I love and miss you very much.. Shane Andrew, April 25, 2004

Craig...

Once again, I am so sorry for your loss. You can request copies of your wife's medical records from the hospital and also from the doctor. I would make an appt with a Peri and ask there thoughts.

I remember while recoving from an emerg c-sec the doc that dilv our daughter came in and sat down and said I just read your whole chart. Next time you want to have a baby please see me first, you were very mismanaged. Did that help?... In a way it did.
I hope the records will give you closure.
Prayers for comfort,peace and stregth for you and your family....

Hugs
~T
Moderator Grief and Loss
Mommy to
Drew(13)
Ky (11)
~i~ Katlyne(12/9/02-04/02/03) & Casey (EDD 09/10 or 09/11-Sure he will be here in Aug)
Katlyne's Tribute Site
http://forevernetwork.com/lifestories/lifestory.cfm?Archive_ID=10971&Directory=/Archives/MountHope&Sort=V

Craig,
I am not really sure who you should talk to...and I don't want to rattle blame on anyone either, However, I can certainly understand why you and your wife feel that something more should have been done. With what your wife was reporting to her doc, I find it strange that a NST and U/s wasn't done. I am a firm believer in gut feelings, so do what you need to do to feel okay about all this. Take good care, Mada

Mada Harpster

Sam 6-29-00 36weeks P.E.
Ben 11-03-01 No P.E.