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Re : TTC

Post by anne » Mon Aug 16, 2004 07:54 pm

The truth is, people who have had uneventful pregnancies never think twice about things going wrong - and why would they?? My family always downplays my experience with the birth of my son, who was born at 36 weeks by emergency c section due to severe HELLP syndrome. I was put to sleep as the anastesiologist was afraid I would not clot (platelets at under 40). I will always be sad I could not be awake when he was born, but I am forever grateful he was ok.
Funny thing, I recently had a miscarriage at 7 weeks, When I found out I was pregnant I was so concerned that I would develop pre-e, etc again that I didn't really expect this. I guess you never know how things will turn out, but I really want another child, so we will definitly try again!
Good luck to you all!!!


Re : TTC

Post by heatherbbb » Sat Jul 24, 2004 04:26 pm

I know what you mean about being scared. I'm 13 weeks pregnant. I keep thinking that that in another 13 weeks I'll be at the same place in pregnancy when I delivered my first. I do believe that my chances are better because the doctors are watching me closer and I am so much more proactive with my own care. I do say the same thing to people who want to plan trips with the baby. It all depends if I carry full-term. I really think that is a realistic answer, no matter what your inlaws or friends think. It is a strong possibility I will have a premature baby, especially since I got PE before 28 weeks. I just hope my pregnancy will last longer and I have a baby that will overcome the effects of prematurity. A lot do. I saw remarkable things in my 5 1/2 months in the NICU with my son. Of course I will just be estatic if I make it full term.

Good luck getting pregnant. I'm no help there. I got pregnant both times the first month I tried. Luckily some of the other women have been more helpful there.

Good luck! It takes courage to start again.


Mother of Seth Russell, delivered 26 weeks due to PE 9/3/03-2/13/04
Due with baby # 2 Feb 1, 2005

Re : TTC

Post by tinalowe » Tue Jul 20, 2004 02:44 pm

Houst congrats on the baby and I wil keep you in my prayers. I am having conflicting emotions as well and I am just ttc when/if I do conceive I am sure I will be a basket case.

Sha hope that all goes well with your peri! I think we all feel that our little angels are watching over us and protecting us, I know I do.

I did break down and decide to chart my temps, but no opk yet. I hate those things lol. This is only my fourth day charting so am not sure if I will be able to figure anything out this cycle or not.

Tina 23
DH Dereck 26

Emma Victoria stillborn 12-28-03

Re : TTC

Post by sharonda » Mon Jul 19, 2004 04:59 pm

Hi everyone. I've missed you all sooooo much.
Anyway, My hubby and I are going to the perinatologist on Friday. I have been feeling so great knowing that my appointment is finally coming up. We had to wait a few weeks for an appointment. I have decided to start living life again. The stress was bad for me and bad for the child that I want to bring into this world. I try to think only positive thoughts now. When negative thoughts come to me, I change them into positive ones. If I get sad about Amaya, I think of her in heaven, protecting me and my DH. When I get scared about TTC, I think about how fun it will be trying.[:I] I find that this helps me.

Re : TTC

Post by houstygirl » Sun Jul 18, 2004 09:55 pm

Hi all
I found out on Friday that I'm pregnant. I'm so scared.
I'm about 6 weeks along, I'm booked for a dating scan next tuesday to work out my exact dates (for when it comes to taking aspirin).

I thought I was ready for all this but now I'm not sure.
My friend lost her baby last week at 36 weeks...they don't know why.
Baby was perfect and she wasn't sick or anything. She just all of a sudden stopped feeling him move.

I'm desperate to hold a healthy far I know more dead babies than live ones.

I saw my doctor today and I've been referred to the specialist at the hospital. They are going to give me a packet of those stick thingies that you wee on and a BP monitor to take home. I'll be seen weekly though the entire pregnancy by the specialist.

I'm so scared by it all that I'm cold and shakey....I need to settle down...

Mum to Angel baby Jonathan Douglas
born still 3rd April 2004 31wks, weighing 880gms

Re : TTC

Post by tinalowe » Sat Jul 17, 2004 10:35 pm

Julie after your post I bought Taking Charge of your Fertility I really love it!! Never knew there was so much I didn't know about my body even with all the reading I have done!!


Emma victoria stillborn 12-28-03


Re : TTC

Post by for faith » Fri Jul 16, 2004 03:54 pm

Tina ~ I understand about the feeling of betrayal, I feel that too. That is why I am secretly hoping when I do get pregnant the baby is a boy. This will be my last pregnancy, so she would have that special place in my life forever.

You are definately in my prayers, all the best.

mommy to:
Tyler - 4 (36 wks, PIH)
Angel baby - 1/20/03 (11 wks)
Faith Kristine - 1/5/04-1/30/04 (30 weeks due to severe PE, passed due to NEC & Sepsis(preemie complications))

trying for #2 to share our lives with since 9/02

Re : TTC

Post by tinalowe » Fri Jul 16, 2004 01:54 pm

Thanks you guys!! :)

In answer to your question Tracey, yes I have been to see a peri he's the one that gave us the go ahead.

My cycles had been pretty regular since my c-section ususally 28 or 29 until the last 2 one was 36 and the last one was 40. I usually can tell by cervical mucus when I am ovulating. So I am thinking that maybe I will just wing it the first few months and see how it goes; then if not I will start taking the ovulation tests and charting.

Doc told me the easiest way was just not to stress about it. Easy for him to say!! It's not the conception part that stresses me it's the after. I am scared that I will never give birth to a healthy baby, my mil tried to tell me that was irrational. Not what I like to hear coming from someone who had two healthy pregancies. I know that she just doesn't understand. ALl my in-laws think that if I get pg again it will be alright, because my ob did say it usually happens only in the first pregnancy. I have tried to tell my mil that there is still a possibility that it won't go perfectly, but I think she just thinks that I am exaggerating. It's kind of hard to talk to her because of a lot of things that happened when I was in the hospital. I really would like her to be involved as much as my mother but she's too hard headed lol (aren't all mil's?) and doesn't let what I tell her sink in! Oh well enough of that I am off the subject.

I know it may sound silly but there is a part of me that sort of feels like I am betraying Emma by trying to become pg again. I know it isn't true and that Emma will always hold a special place in my heart. Even though I lost her I DO NOT regret my pregnancy. She may have never took a breath but she changed my life for the better more than most people will ever understand. I believe her little life had a purpose. Three months to the day after her death her daddy accepted Christ :), something I had been praying about for a long time. God was the only place Dereck could find any answers. Anyhow there I go rambling again, forgive me sometimes my mind strays! lol

Thanks again for all of your comments and please keep me in your prayers :)!

Tina Lowe
Emma Victoria 12-28-03

Re : TTC

Post by for faith » Fri Jul 16, 2004 10:44 am

Tina ~ I am in the same place a you, we are coming up on the 6 month anniversary of our loss and going to TTC next cycle. I agree with what the others have said. It is so nice to know others exactly in the same spot as you. I am going for an appointment with a peri next week to hopefully get the final go ahead. It is so scary to think about PE again, even so much more because of our kinds of losses.

For my last pregnancy I did chart and it is really helpful in knowing your cycles ( For the 2 previous I just used OPKs. All the ways worked the first time [:)]. I am 35 and have a 4 year old son and didn't want to be this old with a baby or have my children so spaced (we have been trying since 2002), so I have to make this a whole planning ordeal. I hope that whatever you do it is successful in a time that is best.

Keep us posted on how you are doing, hopefully we can all make it through this time together. Take care,

mommy to:
Tyler - 4 (36 wks, PIH)
Angel baby - 1/20/03 (11 wks)
Faith Kristine - 1/5/04-1/30/04 (30 weeks due to severe PE, passed due to NEC & Sepsis(preemie complications))

trying for #2 to share our lives with since 9/02

Re : TTC

Post by julie f » Fri Jul 16, 2004 09:46 am


DH and I started trying in April and when I got the ++ in June, I was just as terrified as I was excited... The blissful ignorance of the first pregnancy is gone...

I have a friend who is currently due the day after me and her and her DH called yesterday to see if we wanted to plan a beach/camping trip for early next summer when the babies would be about 4 months old. Without even thinking twice, my response was, "Well, it depends on when our baby is born, I'm not taking a preemie on vacation at 4 months old..." She can't comprehend what I'm saying because she had a textbook pregnancy and has a healthy little one year old girl that came 2 weeks late... I guess what I'm trying to say is that I'm very much on guard this pregnancy but, I also am so much more appreciative and know just what a miracle it is.

I read Taking Charge of Your Fertility in preparation for trying again and, as I'm fortunate enough to have pretty regular cycles, we were pg the 2nd month. I didn't chart or temp but, tried to pay really close attention to cervical mucous changes.

Hang in there, we'll be here for you on this journey.

Julie (27)
Zachary James, 7/22/03-7/27/03, born at 26wks - severe pe

Miracle in progress... #2 is due February 2005!!!

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