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Re: How I wish this wasn't Millie's birthday

Post by sam10 » Sun Jun 12, 2011 08:28 am

Happy 1. Birthday, Millie!
Kerisue....I am struggling to find words that possibly could console you, but I still want you to know that I am here thinking of you and am sharing your loss and pain. Yet, I want to join celebrating your sweet little Millie who has made you a mom and who has showed you what love can mean. Sending you ((hugs))

Re: How I wish this wasn't Millie's birthday

Post by blythe » Sat Jun 11, 2011 08:36 am

Happy birthday, Millie. You have an awesome mama and I am so glad she had a few days with you, but I wish so much that you could have had a long lifetime together.

Re: How I wish this wasn't Millie's birthday

Post by rosemary » Sat Jun 11, 2011 06:00 am

Beautiful words for a beautiful girl. Kerisue...thinking of you and your precious Millie. (((HUGS)))

Re: How I wish this wasn't Millie's birthday

Post by flori » Thu Jun 09, 2011 07:22 am

Happy birthday, Millie.

Your words brought me to tears, Kerisue. I am thinking of you and beautiful Millie. (((hugs)))

Re: How I wish this wasn't Millie's birthday

Post by uncskristy » Thu Jun 09, 2011 07:24 am

I am thinking of you and Millie. Its tough. And although I wish that none of us were forced to go through losing a child I am glad that we found this site and are able to go through the pain with others that understand.

Re: How I wish this wasn't Millie's birthday

Post by holly3372@msn.com » Wed Jun 08, 2011 10:50 am

I cried reading this. Benjamin's 1st birthday was in April.....I know all too well what you are feeling. I am thinking of you and beautiful Millie. I wish you peace and love and a future where we both get to take our babies home with us. Thinking of you today and everyday with love. xo

Re: How I wish this wasn't Millie's birthday

Post by riehlism » Wed Jun 08, 2011 06:19 am

Hi Keri. It's so hard to believe that it's been a year since our babies' births. I'm glad you were able to spend some time with her while she was here. I hope today and the next few days bring you fond memories and fortitude to move forward, while honoring your memory.

Re: How I wish this wasn't Millie's birthday

Post by cmccaffrey » Wed Jun 08, 2011 01:17 am

I am so sorry that Millie can't be with you on her birthday! I hope that you and your husband are able to do something nice to celebrate the little miracle that you made together! She will always be such a beautiful memory that the two of you made together! I am thinking and praying for you and your hubby!

How I wish this wasn't Millie's birthday

Post by kerisue » Wed Jun 08, 2011 10:08 am

One year ago today my daughter Millie was born at 24 weeks (and change) gestation. She was 1lb. 1 oz. It was a nightmare of a day that set in motion her death a few weeks later. I find it incredibly hard to believe that a year has gone by. In some ways I feel like my life got arrested that day. At times it feels like it was just yesterday. Other times it feels like a faraway dream that I’m not even positive happened.

Here are some things I’m grateful for: I’m grateful that I got to experience being a mother. When I was pregnant with her I thought I couldn’t love her more- how unprepared I was for the absolutely mind blowing profound intensity of love that slammed into me the moment I first saw her. I understand now what mother-love is and for that I’m so grateful. I’m grateful Millie was born alive and I got to hold her and interact with her for a period of time. Even though I wanted the rest of my life, those 25 days were a gift. I’m thankful for being there when Millie opened her eyes for literally the very first time. Her eyes were still fused at birth and my face was the first one she saw when she finally opened her eyes. How many moms can say that? I’m thankful that when Millie passed it was in my arms surrounded by my love and the love of our family.

Here are some things I still grieve: I grieve the loss of her in my life, the loss of knowing her more completely over time, the loss of seeing her grow. I grieve not being able to see what she would look like as she grew, which side of the family she would resemble. I miss reading to her the books that I read and loved as a child. I grieve never knowing how her individual personality would develop, what things she would like or hate, what causes she would feel passionate about, what career she might be interested in. I grieve all that she has lost- never to be able to grow, to laugh, to run, to play, to plan, to learn, to dream, to have her own children some day.

Happy Birthday sweet girl (though how I wish you’d been born in September like you were supposed to!) I miss you every second of every minute of every day.

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