firstname.lastname@example.org wrote:Yes sounds familiar and no you aren't being a brat. I have really had to stay focused on myself and say NO. It is getting easier and easier. Although I am not on bedrest at this time ( I am 23 weeks) I am working barley part time which takes enough out of me. After and befre work I have pretty much put myself on bedrest. I have friends asking if I want to do lunch, dinner or meet for coffee all the time. I am also grateful for this however I have just come right out and said, I need my rest and cannot talk or meet up at this time. Friends I really like and can handle seeing have offered to bring lunch over which is great but again its at my discretion! I also just do not answer the phone for people sometimes for days. One friend was upset over this said she was worried and thought we were closer then that. I had to explain that this is not about her. I am going through alot mentally and physically and love her dearly but just need my time and space to rest and grow this baby as much as my body will allow.
I am sorry you are going through this, I know it can be stressful and the last thing we need is any more stress. The friends that matter most will just have to understand and be there for you from a distance at ths time. If you have to continue explaining yourself , well that's just crazy and again more stress on you. I wouldn't get into it again. If they don't get it( which sadly most people don't unless they have been through what we have) then you have to just let it go and focus on the reason you are on bedrest, which is REST! You could also try having a friend who does get it, or your partner talk to them for you. Hope this helps a little
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