by cutieajmom (5 Posts), Mon Oct 27, 2003 05:44 pm
Please, I don't know what to do other than NEVER go back to him ever again. He has absolutely TERRIFIED ME!!! I truly believe if I were to stay with him, my baby and I would most likely die!!! I am SO SCARED!! I have to find a dr. that will take me this late in my pregnancy now (36 weeks today). Here is what took place this afternoon. I got there to have my bp checked...They weighed me...i weigh the same as last thursday...then I peed in the cup...then I went and sat in the room. Well, while I was in the room i heard the nurse say "Dr., you need to see this." He went over to her and she said "look at the amount of protein in her urine" He asked her whose it was and she said "it's Sandy's" Up until today there had been none or only trace levels...well, it took a while for them to come in and in that time I started getting really sick again.seeing stars...feeling super dizzy...the whole nine yards. The nurse came in, laid me down on my left side because I told her I felt like I was going to pass out, and THEN took my bp...WHILE I WAS LAYING DOWN! AAGGGHHHH!!!!! it registered at 135/85...a "false low" so to speak because no one has high bp when they are laying on their left side. Then the Dr. came in and said, well, i see that your bp is down...so nothing to worry about. Then he leans back against the wall and says..."what's this i hear from the nurse at the health dept that you are talking bad about me?" He was SO NASTY!! I told him I wasn't talking bad, I just didn't feel that he was taking me as seriously as he should be. I kept asking him...Are you sure it's normal to be seeing these spots in my vision all the time, having swelling in the morning, etc... he said nothing is wrong with me since I am not putting on weight from the swelling. I had asked the nurse after my bp if it could be lower because I was laying down...she said "probably, yes" When I told the dr. that she had taken it while I was laying down he said "O, that doesn't make any difference" I then asked him if I had protein in my urine...He leaned over and looked at my chart and said, "Actually you do have protein in there today" No 24 hour urine collection...nothing. and he seems convinced that you can't get pre-eclampsia with a second pregnancy if you had it with the first...which is bull! Then he asked if I wanted a script for Percocet...I CLEARLY stated that NO, I was doing just fine on Tylenol now... At the end of the appt., he wrote out and handed me a script for the stuff!!! I had JUST finished telling him that I didn't want it!!! HE ISN'T LISTENING TO ME AT ALL!!! I ended up going straight to the health dept and told them what had just happened. They gave me a list of doctors to call in the morning. But, since I am 36 weeks, I don't know if anyone will take me now. He was so nasty to me about the fact that the nurse had called him about my concerns, that I will be darned if I am going to let him cut me open now. I found out from the health dept. nurse/midwife that my fears of the Percocet were wonderfully founded...it is NOT supposed to be used this close to delivery because it can cause breathing problems in the mom and the baby after delivery!!! Which would end up making the dr. look like he was "right" because he is so dang afraid she won't be able to breathe. She's just fine...or she will be if they would bother to take care of ME! He totally insulted me too!!! He told me "You know, most women would just sit back and agree to do what's best for their babies...You seem to be way more interested in you than in your baby" IF I DIE...SO DOES SHE! I was BAWLING once I got to my car. ...and it was really bad because tim had stayed at home with aj, so i had to deal with all that by myself. I know he's telling me lies and tim and I think it's because he doesn't want to look like he made a mistake. so now he's putting me in a lot of danger. I have every single sign and symptom of pre-eclampsia...pressures over 140/90, protein in my urine now, pain in my upper right side of my uterus, swelling (i have swelling in my face and hands every morning), vision disturbances...etc. etc. The nurse/midwife also agreed with me that the amniocentisis is seriously foolish at 37 weeks. The risks FAR outweigh the benefits at this point. How many 37 week old healthy babies really have difficulties breathing?!?!?! Granted that their moms are being force-fed PERCOCET!!! Right now I have the names of two high-risk dr's that the health dept. gave me. One works through a different hospital (UVA) so that is where we are starting tomorrow. I just really don't know that anyone will take me this far into my preg. I feel that the baby should already have been taken out by now...since my pressures have been so high for so long...and climbing. I am shaking from the sheer stress of today's appt. Please, any advice on what I can do at this point. Can I just go to a different hospital when I go into labor and say I've had no prenatal care so that they will give me a different dr? I feel that someone needs to be keeping an eye on me now though...i have to have a repeat cesarean so I HAVE to be able to trust my dr. I am so scared...I am afraid that I will get so bad before someone sees me that I will have seizures or that I will lose my daughter! I am so afraid...please help!!!