I completly know how you feel, my last OB/Gyn mismanaged my last pregnancy, and I feel was partly responsible for the fact that my son was born at 25 weeks. It frustrates me that so many OB/Gyn's treat their patients with limited knowledge of how to treat a pregnancy if something goes wrong. Or if they have the knowledge, they tend to dismiss a clue of something going wrong in a pregnancy and say it is normal.
I agree with Julie. Ask lots of questions and keep an open dialog. Also, see if they will refer you to a perinatologist (sp?) Let them know you would feel better consulting with one before the next pregnancy. Also, definitely get your old medical records. Something might be in there to shed light on catching PE quicker if it shows up again. A sign for me would be the fetus growing slow. That happened in my last pregnancy, and could have been a flag. I have also heard high HCG levels from other women on this board, as well as, a slighly abnormal AFP.
Also, ask lots of friends if they know of an OB/Gyn they or other friends trust, in case you need to find a different one. Also, when meeting with the new OB/Gyn ask him/her if they have had experience with PE and how they treated it.
Max, 25 wk, IUGR, 1/20/03, severe PE