New here and Depressed

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Re : New here and Depressed

Postby aliciab » Fri Oct 20, 2006 09:05 pm

Well we continue to keep dodging the bullet for now. My BP is still in the 130 to 140 range but my doctor said that he is ok with that but doesn't want it over 155. He said he is hesitant to increase the meds again right now because if we keep going up we won't have a lot of room to play with the medication. They hooked me up to the monitor today for a non-stress test and he didn't like the baby's reactivity so he brought in the portable ultrasound machine. The results were great, my amniotic fluid level looks good, the heart rate is strong and she was even taking a few breaths on her own which really made the doctor happy. I have another appointment on Tuesday and will see my OB/GYN then go over for another biophysical profile of the baby. Right now I'm just praying that things will remain on a positive note.

Alicia

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Re : New here and Depressed

Postby misup » Fri Oct 20, 2006 12:16 am

Alicia,

It sounds like you are doing all the right things. I spent 4+ weeks in the hospital on my left side trying to keep my BP down. Mentally, I tried to keep focus on my little Adam. As silly as it may sound we played music for him and ready books to him. I was hooked up to the fetal monitor and he really responded to those types of stimuli... I guess you could say he was enjoying it... And, it really helped me relax.

Do you know if you are having a boy or girl?

Just some little things that might help.

We will continue to pray for you and your little one.

Missy

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Re : New here and Depressed

Postby emersons mom » Fri Oct 20, 2006 11:29 am

Alicia,

glad you found us....sorry for the need to find us! I just wanted to add that when I was on bp meds.....my dr changed my dosage and the prescription lots... and on one of the meds I was more tired and depressed than on the last...sorry I do not remember the exact drug cause I was on 4 different ones....and at one time I was taking a combination of two different drugs.....so keep in mind that some of what you are feeling may be a drug side effect.....you might mention it to your dr as he sounds great and might keep that in mind when prescribing your bp meds in future,

Glad you made it further than I did,

Michelle

ps i never had the steroids because i was gd and it would have caused my blood sugar to spike and thankfully my son's lungs were mature enough on his own that he suffered no ill effects from lung immaturity!

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Re : New here and Depressed

Postby julie f » Fri Oct 20, 2006 00:08 am

Alicia,

I'm sorry for what you're going through right now and send a prayer that you will be able to cook a little longer. The waiting game though, waiting for that other shoe to drop, is miserable and I hope that it never really does.

The women here have lifted me up more times than I can count so please, don't hesitate to head here any time for support - that is what we do best[;)].

I am glad that baby is growing and on track - very good signs. And please know that your worrying isn't making this any worse - we've got no control over our bodies once this disease starts and if your bp is going to rise, it's going to do so whether you're happy or sad.

Please keep us posted.

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Re : New here and Depressed

Postby annegarrett » Thu Oct 19, 2006 05:44 pm

Alicia,

I know it is frustrating to be diagnosed and have no control over what is happening. For me there was a real mental shift in my thinking from a Type A personality to someone who realized she had to accept help from others, often total strangers, and to trust that they know what they are doing. That shift didn't come easily and it didn't come without the realization that sometimes they don't know what they are doing. So it's a delicate balance between letting your doctor do his/her job and making sure that you're getting good care. From what I can see--you are doing great with that--you have learned about the pregnancy and preeclampsia, you know that 300 is the "line" they are watching (that is way more educated than I was when I hit the wall) and you know to be reaching out for moral support. Another good website for people stuck on bedrest is www.sidelines.org They do a great job at providing support to people on bedrest. I spent six weeks there during the last pregnancy and was just reminded of it this past week when I stupidly pulled a shoulder muscle and had to take meds and stay immobile for a few days. I went stir crazy. It's really tough--so maybe it helps to know that your feelings are completely normal. As for the disease itself--it sounds like you are getting very close watched care, you are partnering with your care providers and as Fiona says--32 weeks is a very good place to be--every day closer to 36 weeks is better but I know there are many women who appreciate how special just getting to 32 weeks is. At the end of the day--I think we all realize we just want what is best for the baby--and trust me--the best thing for the baby is a healthy mom. If you start to deteriorate--it is really also an indicator that the baby isn't doing well and at some point, the best thing is to deliver. Hopefully later--but personally--I know a lot of specialists and most of them really try to keep you pregnant as long as possible--so when a doctor says--we should deliver--I would venture to say that most of the time they are absolutely right and you should deliver. It's most distressing when you hear those words at 25 weeks. So congrats on getting to 32 weeks and hang in there. I know each of us here wishes you many more days of boring bedrest.

Take care,

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Re : New here and Depressed

Postby aliciab » Thu Oct 19, 2006 03:54 pm

Thanks for all the positive comments and support. This has been a real rollercoaster for me. I am thankful that I'm informed that the my doctor is very diligent. I usually have appointments twice a week and have had so many ultrasounds I have lost count. I go back tomorrow and will start another 24 hour urine specimen this weekend. Right now the protein in my urine is in the 150's and they said as long as it is under 300 then we are doing ok. The worst part is the waiting and not having any control over this but I have a supportive family, a great working environment and now that I have found this site I feel so much better. Thanks for everything. I will keep you all posted.


Alicia

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Re : New here and Depressed

Postby mom2tori » Thu Oct 19, 2006 01:25 pm

Hi Alicia, I just wanted to add my welcome. I don't having anything to add, I am glad to hear though that you are past the 32wk mark, have the steriods and seem to know what to watch for. Knowing that you are doing everything right and nothing is working to make things better is really tough. That was one of the biggest things for me to handle.

Take care and know that many thoughts and well wishes are with you

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Re : New here and Depressed

Postby melanie12321 » Thu Oct 19, 2006 10:04 am

Hi there alicia, its great your 32 weeks along not long to the 36 week mark hang in there, its great to here your baby is growing well my daughter was born at 36wks and was a small 5lb 1oz and fine, fiona has said what i was also going to say,

i just want to say welcome to the forums ,

take care let us know how you get on love melanie xx

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Re : New here and Depressed

Postby kara » Wed Oct 18, 2006 11:11 pm

Just want to "ditto" Fiona's comments. Most of us have been right there. The waiting is horrible, and not having control is even worse. Hang in there...rest, keep hydrated and know that 32 weeks and counting is a good place to be. It's completely normal to feel like you do. Come vent anytime...that is what we are here for!

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Re : New here and Depressed

Postby fiona » Wed Oct 18, 2006 10:06 pm

Alicia,

I'm so sorry you are struggling with hypertension in this pregnancy. I am pleased to hear what a close watch your OB (and you) have on your symptoms - and glad you got the steroid shots, just in case of an earlier delivery. I'm sure that you don't need me to point out that PIH can be every bit as dangerous as pe - and that having PIH increases your chances of developing pe.

But it's great that baby's growth isn't compromised - and moving forwards from 32 weeks is a good place to be. It is depressing and worrying to be in this position, but it's worth remembering that nothing you did or did not do has any affect on whether pe develops. But keeping your BP well managed certainly is the best way to protect you and your baby.

If it were me, I'd be spending as much time as possible lying on my left side to help keep that pressure down.

I'm glad you found us - come in and vent at any time. Please keep us posted on your progress.



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