New father-to-be looking for info/advice

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Re: New father-to-be looking for info/advice

Postby alviarin » Fri Apr 11, 639259 4:03 am

Steve, thanks for the update.

I'm glad your wife's pressures stayed stable for so many weeks. It sounds like it wont be long before you have your little one in your arms!
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Re: New father-to-be looking for info/advice

Postby vexom » Mon Mar 31, 639259 4:50 am

Sorry it has been a long time. I have been busy just maintaining here so I just haven't had time to post online. I did take a lot of advice from here, and I can't thank you enough. The doctor really appreciated having our records of blood pressure for every appointment, she made copies each week for her record. We have been blessed to have had a slow progressing pre-eclampsia. We are now at 36 weeks! and the doctor really wants to make it to 37 but her blood pressure is starting to go up faster now (1-2 a day consistently), so my guess is my wife will be induced soon. I just wanted to update you all and say thanks again. I will be sure to post baby pics after we deliver.

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Postby christina89 » Tue Mar 11, 639253 10:35 am

Hey I'm sorry you are having to deal with this! Sounds like your wife is in good hands with both you and her Dr being so proactive! Its hard to go threw your wifes is a pretty good spot at 28 weeks. I like jasmine am a very rare case I got its super early. When I reached 28 weeks this time my Drs felt pretty good about everything I'm now 31 weeks. But as for support for your wife. My husband was brilliant he listened to me even when I talked about nothing. He also bought me this little stuffed frog I love frogs and I found it so comforting when I was in the hospital I had that little frog with me all the time. That really help. Also he helps out with dishes and laundry and cat litter and he's taken over all the bills he took 80 percent of house hold stress right away from me plus he works 16 hour days so he's over loaded himself to make me comfortable. But at the same time he let's me do my own thing if I want to do dishes one day he let's me without hovering. When I'm done I feel good because I did something . I hope this helps sometimes its just being there. My husband is my rock. And just having him help a little bit bringing me the odd treat just because and he rubs my back every night. It all adds up. I truely hope everything turns out well for you guys and your wife can cook that little bun for many weeks to come with out complication!

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Re: New father-to-be looking for info/advice

Postby vexom » Tue Mar 11, 639253 9:41 am

I am very thankful for all the support and input! I'm very happy that I found this forum. The first thing that we will do tonight, after I get home from work, is get an at home blood pressure monitor. Thats a great idea and I'm sure the extra data points will help the doctor, at a minimum it will show that we are taking it very seriously. Does anybody have any recommendation for what brands or features to look for?

I will also add asking about a consult with an MFM to my list of questions for our doctor next week. That is something I have never heard of so thank you for that.

Right now we are still hopeful that everything will turn out fine. We also believe that we are blessed to have a great and very pro-active doctor. However, my wife still seems to be a bit depressed right now. Likely out of fear but I also suspect that she is disappointed that we may have to cancel a family vacation that she has been looking forward to for months. I am trying to keep our minds off of it. Last night we went to a movie (without the salty popcorn) and that seemed to help. I am the stress/worry type (which is probably why I am here) but I am trying to keep it inside as much as I can. Any advice on staying positive and also being a supportive husband would also be appreciated.

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Re: New father-to-be looking for info/advice

Postby riehlism » Fri Feb 28, 639253 5:53 pm

One more thing I forgot to add. In the beginnings of preeclampsia you will sometimes see labile blood pressures. Labile blood pressures mean slowly elevating BPs. For example, you can start with many normal BP readings, then get some ridiculous spike. Then you will get normal BP readings with more spikes, until your new baseline BP is at the new higher level. So on and so forth.

Mine started with normal BP readings then one day I checked it at work and it was 140/96. Then it went back down to my normal 120/80. Then I got a few high readings. It was steady there, then I suddenly got a 150/100. I checked myself into Labor & Delivery at that point and it kept cycling and trending upward.

Prior to being admitted by 24 hour catch was around 200. So the first symptoms for me were "the headache" and the labile BPs. Just thought I'd share what you and your wife can look out for.
Jasmin: Severe PE/HELLP and delivered at 24+6 & PCOS (29) Hubby Bubby, Frank (29)
Baby Blue stopped in to say hello and goodbye on 6/3/10
Baby Lucas was born on 10/13/11, PE and HELLP-free! Thank you baby aspirin and Lovenox
http://www.ehd.org/pregnancy-calendar.php?id=18192

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Re: New father-to-be looking for info/advice

Postby riehlism » Fri Feb 28, 639253 4:30 pm

It's great that your doctors are so concerned and are keeping a watchful eye on your wife. She is clearly still not diagnostic, which is great. Unfortunately there is nothing that anyone can do to prevent preeclampsia. Should her pressures continue to rise (make it a habit to check twice a day to be safe), your OB will likely place her on medication to keep the blood pressure lower. That is important as high blood pressure can impair how much nutrients the baby is getting.

If you haven't done so already, I would speak to your OB and ask if a consult with an MFM is necessary. An MFM is a Maternal-Fetal Medicine Specialist who is an OB who specializes in high risk cases that can affect both mom and baby. It might be a good idea to be monitored by both.

I don't have the happiest of endings in my experience with preeclampsia as I lost my son at delivery and nearly lost my own life last year. But I also got it at a very early gestational age. So please don't freak out if you see my signature below.

Keep an eye on the diastolic on her blood pressure. It is an indicator of how hard mom's heart is working. Greater than 90 is not ideal. The systolic, or the top number, is concerning if greater than 140. However, this can be easily affected by stress (physical and emotional).

Other things to keep in mind, if your wife develops preeclampsia it is not always going to end poorly. There are many posters on this site who got it at an early gestational age, but were able to carry to term or close to term because the kind of preeclampsia they had was slow moving. Of course, there's the other side of the coin where some of us were hit by it so quickly. I got preeclampsia that developed into HELLP within hours. Again, I'm a special one.

So for your part, diligence with checking BP and being consistent with how you check it (whether seated or lying down is important). Talk with your doc about an MFM consult if he/she thinks it is necessary (although I'd personally push for one anyway). The regular check ups and ultrasounds for growth will give your team a head's up if anything goes wrong, as this disease does affect both baby AND mom.

Good luck, and please keep us posted. Feel free to ask questions if they come up.
Jasmin: Severe PE/HELLP and delivered at 24+6 & PCOS (29) Hubby Bubby, Frank (29)
Baby Blue stopped in to say hello and goodbye on 6/3/10
Baby Lucas was born on 10/13/11, PE and HELLP-free! Thank you baby aspirin and Lovenox
http://www.ehd.org/pregnancy-calendar.php?id=18192

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Re: New father-to-be looking for info/advice

Postby jend01 » Fri Feb 28, 639253 3:19 pm

Very happy to see her doctors are being proactive, sounds like she is in good hands! And it is wonderful that you are researching this for her. Pre E can start out slowly, but it can also progress extremly quickly! Appointments every week will help the doctors to diagnois it and delay it as much as they can.
DS July 8th 2008 36+weeks
-No signs, no symptoms, Severe PE led to HELLP and eclampsia. My wonderful doctors saved my life based on a large weight gain between appointments!
-chronic hypertensive and PTSD, doing well on meds :)
07/11 - TTC :)

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Re: New father-to-be looking for info/advice

Postby mnmom » Fri Feb 28, 639253 12:30 pm

Hi Steve,
I wish I had some concrete answers for you, but I don't. I think it is great that the doctor has upped the visits to once per week. While your wife probably doesn't fit into a diagnosis of PE at this point, she may move in that direction. Or, that incident may have been a stress induced "blip". One thing you could do at this point is to get a bp monitor and start monitoring that at home periodically throughout the day. That 139 on the top is on the high end, but more importantly, where did she start out at and where is that bottom number? Increases in either should be reported to the dr. The swelling is technically no longer listed as a symptom, as it is pretty common in pg, especially in the summer. That said, it does show a retention of fluid and should be watched. In my opinion, knowledge is key. Know the signs and symptoms of PE and HELLP. Ask questions of your dr. And remember, that pregnancy is finite, and it is perfectly ok to err on the side of caution!! Good luck!

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New father-to-be looking for info/advice

Postby vexom » Fri Feb 28, 639253 9:26 am

Hi, I am new to this board, my wife and I are having our first child (a boy) and I am here looking for advice or any sort of information I can get.

Background: My wife is due October 4th (so she is 28 weeks 2 days) and this Monday experienced some blind spots and has also been experiencing significant swelling in the ankles over the last few weeks. Prior to this week though, her BP has always been normal. We called the OB and were instructed to go to Triage, while there she originally had a highish BP of 139/? but it went down from there and it was largely attributed to stress. However, to be safe she was instructed to do a 24 urine sample. This morning we received the results and her protein was 188. We were told that this is not high in the pregnancy scale but the doctor still seemed concerned to have it this high so early. We are now set up for weekly appointments and monthly ultrasounds to check the baby's size.

My question is how concerned should I be, and what actions can we take now to better our chances of not developing pre-eclampsia?

Thanks,

Steve


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