One of the things I told my doctors that seemed to make a difference is that I feel a lot more relaxed when I have as much information as possible - that the unknown is a lot harder for me than a scary reality. They don't always have time to give that kind of attention and explanations, though, so ask away and we'll do our best to fill in more info.
Jaundice - prematurity is a risk factor for jaundice, and if I'm understanding right ABO incompatibility can cause very bad jaundice (were you able to breastfeed at all?). Here are two good links:http://kidshealth.org/parent/pregnancy_ ... dice.html#http://www.aafp.org/afp/2008/0501/p1255.html
I haven't seen inductions mentioned as a risk factor for jaundice unless it was connected to prematurity.
The right side pain "URQ / upper right quadrant pain" can be normal, or it can be an indicator of the liver having problems in HELLP - a fast-moving form of PE. Bloodwork is how they check to see if there is liver involvement.
I had intense Braxton Hicks contractions throughout my pregnancies, as long as your doctors aren't concerned in your shoes I wouldn't panic about them - or ask when they *would* be concerned. My guess would be if they get to be regular, like contractions, or if baby doesn't do well with them in the NSTs. Google for ways to handle BH too - I think hydrating more is helpful, and I'm sure there are more things to try.
The c-section issue is one I was confused about in my first pregnancy and induction - wouldn't induction raise my bp?? But I've come to learn that while sections are lifesaving, and many women here have had them, doctors prefer a trial of labor and hopefully a vaginal delivery in PE, because PE means you are sick and they would prefer to not do major surgery in a woman who is already sick. That recommendation comes from the Working Group on Hypertension in Pregnancy -http://www.nhlbi.nih.gov/guidelines/archives/hbp_preg/ to download the pdf . The WGR is out of date now but our Experts (top researchers and clinicians in hypertensive pregnancies) have told us that the report's recommendations are generally still correct.
The "lung squeezing" part of a vaginal delivery is something I've heard of before, and I know full term c-section babies who had to go to the NICU because their lungs hadn't been "squeezed" enough, but I don't know much about it other than that.
Inductions generally go better in hypertensive pregnancies - you automatically get a +1 added to your Bishops score (likelihood that your induction will result in a vaginal delivery) if you are induced for hypertension.
Magnesium sulfate / MgS04 / "mag" is a nasty drug to experience but if they give it to you it's because it's lifesaving for you and baby. (edited to add - it's not guaranteed to make you miserable, some women don't even notice and we've had a few here feel *better* on it, but in general people like me do complain bitterly about it - as I did in my early posts
). The reason they give it to preeclamptic women is because it cuts the risk of eclamptic seizures in half. If you need to be on it they'll give it to you during labor and 12-48 hours after, because labor and immediate post-partum are the riskiest times for eclampsia. Research has also shown that mag during preterm labor is protective for babies' brains. The side effects disappear once the drug is out of your system, the only concerns I know of is that you can overdose - easily reversible - so they can't always use it in third world countries where it could save many lives, because it does take professional hospital monitoring.
As for would *I* switch in your shoes? I'm not sure if I would. Having a doctor I trust and can communicate with me was essential in my subsequent pregnancies, but in my first pregnancy in the middle of all the confusion and new information I'm not sure *any* doc would have been good enough for me. In your shoes I *would* ask for an MFM consult, and ask if steroid shots would be appropriate (they may not be in your case) to help mature baby's lungs.
As for the NICU, 32 weeks seems terrifying, but it's actually a very good gestational age to be at. There are no guarantees, we've had full term babies have bad outcomes, but in general I think the odds are like 95% of babies will be fine long term, and it seems like most 32-34 week babies have issues figuring out breathing and eating for a little while then do fine. We've had a few 34 week babies room in with mom with no NICU time at all. In your shoes I'd call the NICU at your hospital and find out if they can handle a baby at 32-34 weeks and ask about any other specific concerns. I'd narrow it down to 2-3 main questions, nurses are busy!, and call back after you process those answers and have more questions.
In your shoes I'd start with asking for an MFM consult. That way you're not changing your providers completely, while at the same time getting a more specialized doc to weigh in on your specific case.
And in the meantime, breathe
. This is a ton of information to dump on you all at once, and it's probably why many docs don't explain things.