Wanting to try again but haven't reached my goal...

[amallison]

of losing as much weight as I wanted to, but I'm going to turn 39 this fall and think time may be slipping away. I had severe HELLP with my first pregnancy, but have a wonderful healthy boy who only spent 10 days in the NICU. Have any ladies who are/were struggling with weight issues gone on to have less stressful second pregnancies? Would love to hear others experiences.

[blythe]

We've had many women with successful second pregnancies! There are no guarantees, but it's possible. Have you had a consult with an MFM to determine your specific risk factors and chances of recurrence? I pulled a few general links for you as well -

http://www.preeclampsia.org/forum/viewt ... f=19&t=331
"Will It Happen Again? The Experts Weigh In"

http://www.preeclampsia.org/forum/viewt ... +weight+PE

http://www.preeclampsia.org/forum/viewt ... +weight+PE

Do those links help at all? Please ask more questions! I'm glad you found us but sorry you had to.

[angieb]

I was overweight by bmi standards for my first 2 pregnancies. After I developed severe pre-e and hellp at 23 wks, I asked my mfm how much I should lose before ttc and she told me my weight wouldn't really make much of a difference in her opinion. True enough, I went in to preg #2 about 20 pds heavier than I started my first disasterous pregnancy, while I did develop GD (I have pcos so that's pretty common), I didn't get pre-e or hellp at all the 2nd time despite extremely high odds of it due to my severe early onset case the first time.

I agree to talk with an mfm first. Good luck!

[amallison]

Yes these links do help. Thanks you. I am currently scheduled to go and see three doctors next week. The high risk specialist from the practice I went to during my last pregnancy. A new doctor at a somewhat smaller practice, and a MFM at the Women's hospital.

I am terrified to try again because the thought of not being around for my baby boy is horrible, but I also want to add more to out family. The love he brought in was amazing and I selfishly want more.

I'm not terribly overweight, size 14, but I feel like I haven't done enough. Thanks for your response.

[sam10]

One question you might want to ask your doctors is whether in your case it would be more beneficial to start trying soon due to your age and/or to lose more weight. Good luck and let us know what your doctors say!