by firstname.lastname@example.org (478 Posts), Tue Nov 06, 2012 06:56 am
Hello. Although I did not have HELLP I did have severe preeclampsia and had to deliver my son emercency classical csection at 26 weeks . Both my son and I were very sick. Sadly after a 4 month long battle in the Nicu we lost our baby boy. It is also 2 years later for me. I will be 28 weeks pregnant this friday. My doc did not say much to ease our minds about trying again either. I remember going to several and each one had a different opinion and gave me a different percentage rate of getting it again. The truth is they do not really know for sure which is why pre-e and HELLP still remain the big mystery. I remember one doctor said to me , if you were 25 years old and in perfect health with no history, I still couldnt sit here and tell you everything will be ok. Pregnancy is the greatest miracle and mystery in the world and each one is unique in that it is different from the last. There is no guarentee with any pregnancy .
So, here I am at 40 years of age pregnant again . I am almost 2 weeks further then my 1st pregnancy. So far, things are going well. I realize anything could quickly change so I do my best to keep moving foward and take each day as it comes. It isn't easy and I am scared alot, but the feeling I had of not trying again and never knowing outweighed my fears. My family was terrified when I told them all I was pregnant again. As time has passed they are all on board and have been supportive . They are just afraid for us and that's understandable.
In my first pregnancy I also develpoed what we thought was a GI flu after that everything went downhill. This pregnancy has been so different in so many ways! I know it is not an easy decision to make and only you can decide. I hope this has helped you some. You are not alone, we here understand.
Benjamin Spider Reeves born 4-28-2010( 1lb 6oz 26 weeks to severe pre-e and Iugr) we lost you after 4 long months in the NICU. You fought so hard,and were so brave.Our first baby .We miss you everyday and love you forever xo
Expecting ,dreaming, and hoping for our baby Girl sometime in January 2013