This has happened to me once since Zach died. It was very weird when I heard from a firend of a friend that someone who is in our (DH and I) relatively close circle of friends, was expecting. I didn't know what to say, I was happy for them but shocked that I didn't know. It was just an ackward situation, the person who told me got the "deer in headlights" look and couldn't get away fast enough...
I immediately called my friend and told her congratulations, that Andy and I were so happy for them. She told me that she was actually just getting ready to tell me... I talked to her husband a while later to congratulate him and he said, "Yeah, it's no big deal, just another kid, hope it'a a boy this time." (They have 2 girls already) Nope, not kidding, an actual quote from him...
People just don't know what to say... and, they often can't keep their mouths shut!
Anyway, I've just dealt with things like this by talking to the person and offering my congrats (or whatever the case may be) and then they seem to realize that it's "ok" to give me news like that.
Zachary James, 7/22/03-7/27/03, born at 26wks - severe pe
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