new job

[shae]

I started a new job...at a daycare. I specifically asked not to be in the infant room.On my first day, guess where they put me? The only hours they have available for now are in the infant room. It's so hard to take care of those babies while missing my lil pumpkin. My fiancee tells me to just tough it out, because we are broke and cant really afford our bills...It's just so hard....plus I still feel funny from the depo...I get my next shot next wed, and i am so scared. My son was a depo "oopsie" what if it happend again? I cant handle that.....help...

[annes]

Shae, did you tell your new employer the reason why you do not want to be in the infant room? If not, I would, maybe it won't make a difference, but maybe it will. Good Luck, take care of yourself.

[leeann34]

I am sorry you are so uncomfortable working in the infant room. Honestly, I probably would be too for a little while. Maybe if you give it a little more time then you may feel okay with it. If you don't think you can then you could let your employer know of your recent situation (if they don't already know) and maybe they would reconsider. In the meantime if you really need your job you could try and look at the situation as a way to offer the love you have for your child to the babies you are taking care of. I haven't got to hold an infant since I lost my own, but I think this is what I would do if I got the chance. In some ways I would love to hold an infant and in others I am not sure how I would react. I am actually afraid I would break down and cry and I guess that would be okay because at some point I am going to have to hold a baby again. It is just a suggestion so of course do what you feel is comfortable and right for you. I do hope that everthing works out for you at this job and that you are able to continue to work. Keep us posted.

[rebecca2]

Shae, I'm sorry things are so difficult right now. I agree with Anne. Maybe if you explain why you don't want to work with the infants your boss will reconsider. Take care.

[shae]

My boss knows. She has known the whole time...when I was still pg, I took a tour of the daycare and filled out papers to enroll him there

[leeann34]

oh..I am really sorry. I wish I knew what to tell you but I think it will have to be a decision you make based on what you think you can handle. I guess there is no easy answer to your situation. I am a nurse and I did decide not to go back into the clinical setting with my students because I was just so burn out from being in the NICU this summer. To deal with sick patients again and possibly babies was too much for me. So my work place accomadated and put me in the classroom for this year and part of next. Is your boss approachable? I think if it were my boss I would have to sit down and talk with her so I could begin to understand her reasoning for needing me in the infants room....and especially in your case after knowing you recently lost your own baby. If she's not approachable or doesn't seem very receptive to your concerns you could try seeing if there is any other job positions you would be interested in.

[atvlady]

Hi shae and sorry to hear of your trouble. IMHO I would reitterate to my boss how I feel and why I feel this way. As we all know, unless you have walked in our shoes, you do not know how it feels and I think people forget about that, esp when it comes to co-workers. I run my own business from home and have let someone else run it for me so I could have time to grieve. All but one of my customers has stayed with me. The guy that is handling my accounts has explained to them the circumstance and they have been very understanding. I think, for myself, you have to give them a glimpse of what it is like to be in our shoes. My other suggestion to be would go around and put applications in at other places but find something that would occupy your mind and you would enjoy. You will excel at a job you really like. Even if it means working 2 part time jobs to have jobs you like, I think it would be worth it:)