where's my little girlie?????

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naomihope427
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Re : where's my little girlie?????

Postby naomihope427 » Tue Mar 09, 2010 06:07 pm

Thank you Anne & supporting ladies.

I do need more help, I am just am in a lot of shock, denial, sadness, full of emotions, scared. But I do know somehow things will work out..I hope.

I am quite a mess through it all and losing Naomi, so yes I definetely need more help than what I am getting which is frankly nothing really. I really really appreciate your ladies support it means so much to me! Thank you.

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Re : where's my little girlie?????

Postby annes » Tue Mar 09, 2010 01:14 pm

I agree with Caryn and Dara, get the help you need, because you have a lot to get through being pregnant again! It is very hard, and you are right, you should not have to do it alone. I felt like I took my pregnancy one day at a time, sometimes one hour at a time, and that helped, I broke it down into manageable pieces. HUGS.

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Re : where's my little girlie?????

Postby naomihope427 » Tue Mar 09, 2010 10:59 am

Thank you ladies so much for everything. If it wasn't for you all I don't know what id do, =).

I will have to ask my ob if I can be put back on the medicine or continue taking it with my next apt. I NEED to be on something, I can't do this "alone".


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Re : where's my little girlie?????

Postby raspbeari » Tue Mar 09, 2010 10:41 am

I also have been and continue to need to be on zoloft. I'm not saying that you are like I was, but frankly I was a complete mess for a couple years, at least after my loss. I was depressed somewhat before my loss, so I think what was a problem for me, became a hundred times moreso after losing kai. I don't think I'm abnormal or anything though, it is a rare person that doesn't dip into despair over this.
I'm not sure what meds you couldn't take, I guess the ones for bipolar disorder they want people to get off of when pregnant? which sounds very difficult. Don't be afraid to go get some help.
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Re : where's my little girlie?????

Postby amaara » Tue Mar 09, 2010 02:15 am

I am so sorry. I wish I could tell you it gets better. They are always with us.

~~Amara

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Re : where's my little girlie?????

Postby darateacher » Mon Mar 08, 2010 10:27 pm

I've been on Zoloft since I lost my Aaron two years ago. It works pretty well, and I'm at work, too. Please go easy on yourself, though. Continue to grief whenever you feel it. I always do, and it feels like a release. (((HUGS!)))

ETA: I was on Zoloft when I was pg with Adam and Noah, too. They're both happy and healthy.

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Re : where's my little girlie?????

Postby caryn » Mon Mar 08, 2010 10:02 pm

There should be meds for you that are safe in pregnancy. And it's never good to just take a depressive off her meds because she's pregnant. You have every reason in the world to be depressed and if the meds were helping you, I'd ask the docs for some scrip that's safe in pregnancy -- I know we have a lot of posters here with similar histories of loss who were on something or other during their subsequent pregnancies.

I will be thinking of you and remembering Naomi tonight.

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Re : where's my little girlie?????

Postby raspbeari » Mon Mar 08, 2010 07:58 pm

((hugs))

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Re : where's my little girlie?????

Postby naomihope427 » Mon Mar 08, 2010 01:17 pm

Oh I am so sorry, I feel as if ill forever be in my grief, it just doesn't seem to ever leave me. I just feel so lost not having Naomi. I don't know how to go on without her, I still feel as if im in some horrible hightmare that I just can't wake up from, a huge part of me is missing. & even going to my doctor apt today for a 2 week ultrasound thing to make sure things are ok, they are, I had a little feeling maybe hoping things weren't. I thought how could I think like that. I did see heartbeat & saw the baby at 7 weeks 3 days, I just stared off into space. My doctor later asked if I was excited, I said no im scared & confused. And I just remember him I swear like yesterday in the operating room and with Naomi, everytime I see him I just get all squeamish kind of thing. I just hurt all over. I was on my meds but I had to stop them and for depression bc of my loss and now I just feel 10 times worse. =/

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Re : where's my little girlie?????

Postby brianned5 » Mon Mar 08, 2010 12:14 am

Thinking of you. It's been 19 months since I lost Kylie and I still cry every day. I miss her. I look at my second daughter and I just cry. I love her dearly and wouldn't trade her for the worls, but I look at her and I want Kylie. I know our family will never be complete without her. Sending big hugs your way.


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