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Postby l412angel » Wed May 19, 2010 10:16 pm

by l412angel (1746 Posts), Wed May 19, 2010 10:16 pm

Im so angry that I realized that I will never have a normal pregnancy. I will most likely be on bed rest at some point in my next pregnancy, and it just bugs me that next time or any time will never be normal. My girlfriend said to me "lets go to a concert" I told her I can't go if I am pregnant...she said "pregnant people go to concerts" NOT PREGNANT PEOPLE WHO LOST THEIR CHILD AND ALMOST DIED!!! Is it bad that during my next pregnancy I am going to focusing on relaxing...working as far into pregnancy as my body allows and thats it? I dont want to focus on ANYTHING else. I just want to relax!
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Re : Angry

Postby anonpreemiemom » Wed May 19, 2010 11:09 pm

by anonpreemiemom (185 Posts), Wed May 19, 2010 11:09 pm

Oh Laura I know what you mean about lamenting not being able to have a normal pregnancy. I completely understand your thoughts going into it, as does everyone else here that has conceived again. We wish we could just ignore all the little aches and pains they most preggos whine about, but we need to take seriously. I wish we didnt have to but I just try to keep thinking about the reward at the end of it all.

And also if it makes you feel better, my Ob (the one who is a bit negative) told me months ago "expect bedrest at some point". Well as you know we are chugging along at 33 weeks now and no bedrest yet!

None of us can predict exactly how the next pregnancy will go but you still have a very good chance of having a long uneventful pregnancy with little to no hiccups!
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Re : Angry

Postby angieb » Wed May 19, 2010 11:20 pm

by angieb (1192 Posts), Wed May 19, 2010 11:20 pm

I don't really get angry about it (though it's definitely justified), just sad I guess. The part that gets me angry/frustrated is that I can't even GET pregnant like a normal person. The ultrasounds and meds and weekly appointments and shots and bloodwork have started and I'm still TTC.

Universe, you really suck sometimes.

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Re : Angry

Postby l412angel » Wed May 19, 2010 11:27 pm

by l412angel (1746 Posts), Wed May 19, 2010 11:27 pm

Angie I know :( Did you have any troubles having your first?
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Re : Angry

Postby annes » Thu May 20, 2010 09:08 am

by annes (2527 Posts), Thu May 20, 2010 09:08 am

I felt very angry that I would never be able to relax and enjoy being pregnant again after my oldest was born at 33 weeks to severe pe. I think that is a normal way to feel. I was able to be fairly active during my last pregnancy, and keeping busy helped me manage the constant anxiety. Have you talked to your doctor about what the limitations are that he/she will impose during your pregnancy, I think you should. My doc really did not want me traveling after 20 weeks he did not want me going more than an hour away. It was inconvenient, because my family and dh's family both live more than 3 hours away, but you know what I was happy to do it. Take care of yourself, and of course, it is totally fine for you to be focused on getting as far as you can in your pregnancy. Blowing stuff off for 9 months won't hurt you or your friends/family, the reward of healthy mama and baby will far outweigh any missed events :).
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Re : Angry

Postby jules2 » Thu May 20, 2010 10:45 am

by jules2 (514 Posts), Thu May 20, 2010 10:45 am

Laura, I am now 8 weeks pregnant and I feel the same. I am receiving great attentive care, but that's only because I am viewed as the "highest of high risk" and I hate that. I have discussions with my specialists about PE Prophylaxis, early PE detection, conservative management and so on. Its way way far off the norm.

I feel exactly the same as you; all I want to do is try to keep myself as fit and healthy as possible (keeping up exercise and working as long as possible) and nothing else. I think that is appropriate for me, and probably all I can manage.
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Re : Angry

Postby l412angel » Thu May 20, 2010 10:53 am

by l412angel (1746 Posts), Thu May 20, 2010 10:53 am

Congrats on 8 weeks :)
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Re : Angry

Postby angieb » Thu May 20, 2010 04:10 pm

by angieb (1192 Posts), Thu May 20, 2010 04:10 pm

Laura- Kinda but not really. I mean, it took a year and a half, but I only had 4 cycles in that time, and I doubt I ovulated with all 4. I was a lot more relaxed about it and didn't really want to deal with the doctors and meds and testing and invasiveness of fertility treatment, and we just randomly got lucky. This time, I pretty much wanted the fertility treatment from day 1 because I'm not as patient as I used to be and it's actually more of a relief to know exactly what's going on with my body-at least at this phase.
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Re : Angry

Postby lucy » Wed May 26, 2010 04:36 am

by lucy (4706 Posts), Wed May 26, 2010 04:36 am

I think it truely is hard for people who have not been through it to fully understand, we do the best we can and that's whats important so hang in there.
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