We have always had an open dialogue with Brianna about her brother, how mommy got sick and had to have him too early and how he was too sick to live. We always do special things to memorialize his life. Like we send balloons to him on his birthdays, and buy him a small xmas present at xmas, We walk in the walk for Babies walk in his memory each spring, and the hospital has a memorial service once a year for all the nicu babies that have passed. So there is something that we do for Chance every few months, and that is were we remind her of who he is and what happened. But she will also randomly bring up death/heaven/Chance and then I basically TRY to answer her questions. We don't talk about him everyday, and I don't want to throw it in her face, but I do want her to know about him, know what happened, and her to always feel free and open to talk about him. I know after we lost our son people expected us in a way to forget him, or at least not talk about him. But dead or alive he is my son, and I want to talk about him, and I want Brianna to never feel ashamed or scared to talk about him.