by rebecca2 (639 Posts), Wed Jun 16, 2010 11:19 pm
I'm not 100% sure where to post this, but I thought it fit more with grief & loss than any other topic...
Mother's Day and Father's Day have been very sad days for me since loosing Addison. Even now that I have Aden, I'm not sure how I feel about these holidays and find it difficult to look for a gift for hubby. I'm not sure what to get him...it isn't his 1st father's day...it is his 1st father's day with a living baby and I don't think Hallmark makes a card for this situation. Does anyone have any suggestions for gifts? I feel like this should be a special day for hubby, but I'm still so sad to not have Addison here with us I feel guilty celebrating without her. Aden is 3 weeks old today and while I'm over the moon to have him, I think I've cried more over Addison the past few weeks than I have in a long time. I suppose some of this is because I tried to stay positive during my pregnancy to not increase my stress/BP that I wouldn't let myself take time to cry and it is just catching up with me.
Anyway, any suggestions for special gifts/things to do will be much appreciated. Also, how do you not feel guilty for celebrating with one baby when your other baby isn't here?