Post Reply FAQ Members Login

New here - Due date today (very long)

A place for those bereaved to receive and offer support

Re: New here - Due date today (very long)

Postby riehlism » Tue Jun 07, 2011 09:14 pm

by riehlism (655 Posts), Tue Jun 07, 2011 09:14 pm

Hi Nikki,

I am very sorry for your loss. June 3rd is a very special day for me. As you can see by my signature, my son was born and passed on June 3, 2010. June 3rd would have been his first birthday. It's a loss that can't be described, only experienced. I went through the normal stage of avoiding babies, pregnant bellies, and friends who were so uncomfortable they'd rather just forget the whole thing ever happened.

It was, and continues to be, a difficult grief process. People who are so close to us somehow fail us when we need them. They try their best to perk you up by saying: He's in a better place. Or the infamous: You'll have another one. It just makes us feel like our babies weren't enough to be recognized as a real child.

I was stubborn in the beginning and didn't want to see a grief counselor. I thought I could use this forum to speak with ladies to discuss my grief. Part of me didn't want to hear anything from someone who probably has no clue what happened to me. After a few weeks, maybe even a month and a half, my husband said we both had to see someone. So I saw a grief counselor with my husband (and sometimes individually), to help me organize my thoughts, feelings, and how to prepare to awkward situations.

I also saw an MFM, and my OB talked me through what happened. I also did my own research and asked a lot of questions on this site. I am very thankful for everyone here. It has been a source of strength, wealth of information, and camaraderie to be cherished.

I wish you luck during your grieving process. And I hope you will find this site inspirational, supportive, and empowering. Welcome to the boards.
Jasmin: Severe PE/HELLP and delivered at 24+6 & PCOS (29) Hubby Bubby, Frank (29)
Baby Blue stopped in to say hello and goodbye on 6/3/10
Baby Lucas was born on 10/13/11, PE and HELLP-free! Thank you baby aspirin and Lovenox
User avatar
Registered User
Posts: 655
Joined: Thu Jul 15, 2010 03:57 pm
Location: Reseda, CA


Return to Grief and Loss

Who is online

Users browsing this forum: No registered users and 3 guests