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Grave Marker

Postby cmccaffrey » Thu Jul 21, 2011 11:52 pm

I went back home to visit my family this past week. While I was there, I learned that my son's grave marker had finally arrived and been placed at the cemetery. It was very sad and emotional for me, but I kind of feel relieved that his name is out in the world and people will now see his grave and know that he was loved and dearly wanted.

I wanted to share his marker with you wonderful ladies and I hope that none of you will take offense. I just so desperately want to share Mason, but it's hard to find anyone that will understand and truly respect this situation.

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Please let me know if this image upsets anyone and I will take it down.
Christa (25) & J (26)
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Mason born 10.11.10 @ 30+3 wks due to Severe Pre-E. Only lived 2.5 days
Noah born 2.1.12 @ 38 weeks thanks to lots of doctors visits, LDA, Lovenox and no preeclampsia!

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Re: Grave Marker

Postby tracym » Fri Jul 22, 2011 04:32 am

It's beautiful xx
Tracy

Jack - 37 weeks Feb '01 (mild PE dx 33 weeks)
Kate - 33 weeks Feb '05 (severe PE dx 31 weeks)
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Re: Grave Marker

Postby kerisue » Fri Jul 22, 2011 03:25 pm

The marker is beautiful. Part of the devastation of loss of a child is the not being able to share the joy of him with others. But I do see Mason and think of him every time you post because his picture is there. It's not much, but it's something!
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born June 2010 @ 24 wks. gestation due to my severe PE and CHF
lived 25 days, loved and missed
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Re: Grave Marker

Postby flori » Fri Jul 22, 2011 10:41 pm

Aww Christa... it's beautiful.
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Mommy to Gracie- born at 25 weeks 03/15/11, 11 inches, 1.1lbs, and absolutely beautiful. Became my sweet angel the next day.
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Re: Grave Marker

Postby cmccaffrey » Sat Jul 23, 2011 01:42 am

Thank you ladies for letting me share with you. I really appreciate all the kind words. I wish I had more than just a box of memories and a handful of pictures to share.
Christa (25) & J (26)
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Mason born 10.11.10 @ 30+3 wks due to Severe Pre-E. Only lived 2.5 days
Noah born 2.1.12 @ 38 weeks thanks to lots of doctors visits, LDA, Lovenox and no preeclampsia!

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Re: Grave Marker

Postby claricemaala » Sat Jul 23, 2011 01:44 am

Thank you for sharing. The marker is beautiful.
I remember feelingthe same way when my mom told me that my son's marker arrived. It was closure but also a painful closure indicating a "final goodbye".
It also made me proud to show my son's name to the world. I just wished I would introduce him to the worls in a different world. Stay strong.
Mom to 6 year old. Born at 33 1/2 weeks after preeclampsia and abruptio placenta.
Angel boy -Michael- born 2/1/2010 at 31 weeks. Had pre eclampsia and hospital bedrest at 27 weeks. Died due to NEC. Forever loved and missed
Rainbow baby due Feb 2012. Hoping for a looooonnnnnnngggg uneventful pregnancy.
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Re: Grave Marker

Postby cmccaffrey » Sat Jul 23, 2011 02:47 am

Thanks claricemaala... it definitely does bring forth a whole other level of closure. I wasn't really expecting that.

PS: it seems our rainbow babies are due in the same month! How are you tolerating your first trimester?
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Mason born 10.11.10 @ 30+3 wks due to Severe Pre-E. Only lived 2.5 days
Noah born 2.1.12 @ 38 weeks thanks to lots of doctors visits, LDA, Lovenox and no preeclampsia!

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Re: Grave Marker

Postby sam10 » Sat Jul 23, 2011 05:13 pm

It is beautiful and thank you for sharing. We know how important it is to tell the world about our precious babies. Back home my little Henry got his placed next to my dad's.
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Henry (1/1/2010-1/7/2010) - forever loved and missed; severe PE with Hellp; partial placental abruption, classical c-section at 25.6 weeks
Matilda (Nov. 2012, born at 35.4 weeks) - severe PE


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Re: Grave Marker

Postby holly3372@msn.com » Sun Jul 24, 2011 09:13 am

Thank you for sharing this with us. I was feeling so alone in my grief today and then saw this and remembered that sadly I am not. It truly is beautiful. Sending love to you,hope you are feeling well. xo
Benjamin Spider Reeves born 4-28-2010( 1lb 6oz 26 weeks to severe pre-e and Iugr) we lost you after 4 long months in the NICU. You fought so hard,and were so brave.Our first baby .We miss you everyday and love you forever xo

Expecting ,dreaming, and hoping for our baby Girl sometime in January 2013
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Re: Grave Marker

Postby princesspurr » Mon Jul 25, 2011 03:29 pm

It is beautiful. I remember when I got my daughter's headstone, it was so bitter sweet.
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Veronica Rosina, 11/25/2004-11/27/2004
Born at 26.5 weeks because of severe preeclampsia (doc says I was on my way to HELLP but not there yet)
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