by uncskristy (171 Posts), Tue Sep 04, 2012 11:27 am
I am so sorry for your loss. I truly believe that there is nothing worse than losing a child. I wish I could say the pain goes away but it does not. You will learn how to cope with the pain and move on the best you can.
My story is simliar to yours. Cooper is my second born son. At 22 weeks, my BP was fine and there was no protein in my urine. I started to swell up terribly and was miserable soon after that. I kept telling myself it was paycheck for a great first pregnancy. At 23 weeks and five days, I woke up with bleeding. My placenta had a small tear. The BP was high when I checked into the hospital but calmed down within a day and my liver/kidney functions were okay. The bleeding stopped so I believed that we were through the worst and I just needed to relax and deal with a long hospital stay until it was safe for Cooper to be born. At 24 weeks, two days a team of doctors entered my room and told me that the steroids I had received on day one and two must have been masking what was going on with my kidneys and liver because the tests showed they were now failing. The tests would be repeated but if there was no change or it had gotten worse then they would need to deliver Cooper within 48 hrs to save at least my life. That afternoon I was wheeled back to the OR knowing my son would not make it. But like you, I had a child at home that the doctors were not going to leave motherless by waiting too long. Cooper was with us for 22 hours. My husband, the hospital staff and myself did the best to make the most of his short life. I did not know then that I would have the strength to try for another child. After hearing the statistics in cases similar to mine and educating myself more on preeclampsia, we decided to try again less than a year later. I was very excited when I made it to 30 weeks with no signs of PE. We made it to 35 weeks and five days before the PE showed up. And even then, it was extremely mild and I had no idea prior to walking into my normal appt that it had returned. Since we knew Blaine was fine and with the speed PE had moved in Cooper's pregnancy, we decided on delivering immediately.
So yes it is possible to go on to have a healthy child.
Again, I am so sorry for your loss. I hate that you had to find out the severity of PE but I am glad that you find us because this site gave me strength because I found that I was not alone.
Mommy of Three Boys- Davis 10/4/2007(No PE, overbaked at 40wks, 2 days),
Cooper 5/20/2010-5/21/2010 (born too early at 24wks, 2 days due to severe PE) and
Blaine 10/11/11 (35wks, 6 days, mild but quick moving PE)
Wife to Matthew since 6/11/2005