The innocence, and honest questions from kids can be heartbreaking and heartwarming. One of the best comments I ever received was from a pre-teen student I knew with cognitive delays. He told me "That sucks. I'm sorry."
Wishing you moments of peace,
Lauren
The Small Things that hurt
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2008-Our Baby Girl, PTL born too early at 30w6d, Fought so hard... Forever Loved & Missed
2010- Lil' Bro, Pre-E at 29 weeks... Induced at 36w6d, Born 37w
2012- Lil' Sis, Super-imposed pre-e at 25 weeks, PTL & GD at 35 weeks, Evicted 36w
2010- Lil' Bro, Pre-E at 29 weeks... Induced at 36w6d, Born 37w
2012- Lil' Sis, Super-imposed pre-e at 25 weeks, PTL & GD at 35 weeks, Evicted 36w
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I am a preschool teacher, I knew going back after the loss of my daughter would be incredibly difficult and it was. I've been back for 4 months now and most of the questions that I couldn't answer have stopped, many kids have forgotten or moved on. But just today a little girl asked me if I still had the baby in my tummy. It brings it all back in an instant, I know they are completely innocent and I have learned to give a quick answer and move on to the next subject.
Ashley
Mommy to Malia born March 15, 2013 at 29 weeks due to severe preeclampsia.
She spent 2 precious days with us that we will forever cherish.
Baby #2 due 6/16/14
Mommy to Malia born March 15, 2013 at 29 weeks due to severe preeclampsia.
She spent 2 precious days with us that we will forever cherish.
Baby #2 due 6/16/14
Re: The Small Things that hurt
I think that missing #4 would hurt every time I saw it. 

Mama to Millie
born June 2010 @ 24 wks. gestation due to my severe PE and CHF
lived 25 days, loved and missed
born June 2010 @ 24 wks. gestation due to my severe PE and CHF
lived 25 days, loved and missed
Re: The Small Things that hurt
The reminders come unexpected and at random, I feel. As much as I feel I am ok with my situation, there it comes out of the blue and it can hurt so bad all over again.
MC 3/2009 and 3/2011
H (1/1/2010-1/7/2010) - forever loved and missed; severe PE with Hellp; partial placental abruption, classical c-section at 25.6 weeks
M (Nov. 2012, born at 35.4 weeks) - severe PE
H (1/1/2010-1/7/2010) - forever loved and missed; severe PE with Hellp; partial placental abruption, classical c-section at 25.6 weeks
M (Nov. 2012, born at 35.4 weeks) - severe PE
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The Small Things that hurt
Its amazing how small little reminders that Cooper is not here hurt a lot. This morning at a doctor's appointment I had to hand over my insurance card that reads:
1. Matthew A.
2.Kristina
3. Matthew D.
5. Blaine
Where's my number 4?
Then I was reading a magazine that had a picture a mother had sent in of her three year old little boy Cooper working on a craft. (Cooper would have been three on May 20th) And I can not tell you how many little boys named Cooper I know of now. I thought I had picked an somewhat original name. The worst was last year on what would have been Cooper's 2nd birthday watching my oldest son having fun playing ice hockey with a little boy named Cooper.
I know the pain will never go away but seriously can life just cool it with the reminders!
1. Matthew A.
2.Kristina
3. Matthew D.
5. Blaine
Where's my number 4?
Then I was reading a magazine that had a picture a mother had sent in of her three year old little boy Cooper working on a craft. (Cooper would have been three on May 20th) And I can not tell you how many little boys named Cooper I know of now. I thought I had picked an somewhat original name. The worst was last year on what would have been Cooper's 2nd birthday watching my oldest son having fun playing ice hockey with a little boy named Cooper.
I know the pain will never go away but seriously can life just cool it with the reminders!
Kristy
Mommy of Three Boys- Davis 10/4/2007(No PE, overbaked at 40wks, 2 days),
Cooper 5/20/2010-5/21/2010 (born too early at 24wks, 2 days due to severe PE) and
Blaine 10/11/11 (35wks, 6 days, mild but quick moving PE)
Wife to Matthew since 6/11/2005
Mommy of Three Boys- Davis 10/4/2007(No PE, overbaked at 40wks, 2 days),
Cooper 5/20/2010-5/21/2010 (born too early at 24wks, 2 days due to severe PE) and
Blaine 10/11/11 (35wks, 6 days, mild but quick moving PE)
Wife to Matthew since 6/11/2005
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