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Re : Just saying hi....

Postby annegarrett » Sun Aug 01, 2004 01:11 pm

Thank you so much for sharing. We are all thinking of you--many women on this board have written me and shared that your loss had them in tears--we all feel so badly. I know this grief and I have nothing that will make it better. Maybe it will help to know that many of the women you see who are pregnant have also had losses--some 1/3 of all pregnant women have miscarriages--I know I have, I know many of the women here have. It is terribly cruel though that there are those who do not care for themselves or their babies and yet have healthy babies. That is the saddest thing--mostly for the babies that will be suffering. I used to teach special education and one of my students was a boy who was born with fetal alcohol syndrome. This disease makes it so that there is no "cushion" between what offends one and your response--so the child would go from fine to violently angry in a nanosecond and very little could be done to teach him to control this. He lived in foster care because ultimately his mother gave him up and his father came in and out of his life--promising to take him home--a promise the boy believed--but never following through. As we talked about at the conference--there are many levels of * and believe it or not--most people are well acquainted with at least one of them. I thought I was alone in this for many years--when we started I was in this vacumn and people thought I was crazy--why couldn't I just "get over it". When you are ready for company--you have a lot of it. I know at least four women in Washington who have lost a baby at or near term who are members of our group. These women really get what you are going through. I am so sorry that you are in this terrible place of pain. If I could do anything to make it easier--to be there--I can and will...please know that.



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Re : Just saying hi....

Postby for faith » Mon Aug 02, 2004 08:24 am

Liz ~ I am so sorry, I have tears as I write this. I had so many of your feelings just 6 months ago and still do have many. This is the hardest thing that no one should have to endure.

This grief will always be with us, just in different forms. There will always be that question about why me, I have found I will go crazy if I let my mind go there.

I am praying that you will find some peace. We understand here, please share anytime. Just as the others have said, please email if there is anything I can do or just to talk.

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Angel baby - 1/20/03 (11 wks)
Faith Kristine - 1/5/04-1/30/04 (30 weeks due to severe PE, passed due to NEC & Sepsis(preemie complications))

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Re : Just saying hi....

Postby heatherbbb » Mon Aug 02, 2004 10:23 am

Liz,
I am so sorry you've had to go through this. I will keep you and your husband in my prayers. I have had many of the same feelings. I just dreamt last night that I was holding my son. I was so upset when I realized it was a dream. Numbness or denial is a part of grief. In my first few months after losing Seth, I felt like it was all unreal. I wish you all the very best and wish I could do something to ease your pain. Unfortunately time is really the only effective way to heal.
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Re : Just saying hi....

Postby e_allen » Mon Aug 02, 2004 03:45 pm

more bad news: ethans grandpa is really sick with cancer. we were happy cause he was going to be able to meet janell before he dies but... well, you know. now it looks like he has about 3 more months and wont be around to meet our next child when ever it decides to come... this is really upsetting to me. i really wanted him to be able to meet our child and now shes gone.



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Re : Just saying hi....

Postby tinalowe » Mon Aug 02, 2004 04:18 pm

Liz,

I am so sorry. I can understand how you feel. I was so happy that Emma was going to meet my grandmother. She was her first grandchild. She is 82 now and I am afraid we won't have one before she leaves us. HEr health has been declining over the past few years and rapidly over the past couple of months. Great big hugs for you!!

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Re : Just saying hi....

Postby denise » Mon Aug 02, 2004 07:59 pm

Liz,
I am so sorry you've have to go through this. I will keep you and your husband in my thoughts. You are in my heart.

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