Like the others have already said, do what you feel able. One of my very close friends had a baby girl a month before we had Zach. I was able to hold her but, I really didn't feel much, just very empty, I think I was still in such shock. Seven months later when my nephew was born though, forget it, it was HARD. I cried and cried. By the time I left their house I was exhausted and must not have gotten out of bed for days.
Hang in there and hold the baby when you think you can. And, don't worry about your reaction. Your best friend will surely understand and you do whatever you need to do.
Zachary James, 7/22/03-7/27/03, born at 26wks - severe pe
Miracle in progress... #2 is due February 2005!!!
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