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Postby heatherbbb » Fri Sep 03, 2004 10:06 am

Today is my son Seth's first birthday. I lost him about 6 1/2 months ago when his chronic lung disease worsened. I think I've been through all of the phases of grief, but today find myself back with that "unreal" feeling as if the world and reality are not real. What should have been a happy day is a very sad day.

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Re : 1st Birthday

Postby for faith » Fri Sep 03, 2004 11:07 am

Oh Heather ~ Sending lots of hugs to you today. I totally understand those unreal feeling, I definitely have those. Take care, I hope that you can gain more peace on Seth's birthday.

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Re : 1st Birthday

Postby tinalowe » Fri Sep 03, 2004 11:26 am

Heather my thoughts and prayers are with you. Hoping you find comfort this day!

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Re : 1st Birthday

Postby sweetiesuzy » Fri Sep 03, 2004 11:37 am

Hugs & love to you in remembering your precious Seth.


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Re : 1st Birthday

Postby e_allen » Fri Sep 03, 2004 01:01 pm

hugs and love to you and your family on this day. do something special for you and to remember Seth today.

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Re : 1st Birthday

Postby mom2tori » Fri Sep 03, 2004 01:56 pm

Heather- I wish I had some comforting words for you and I wish I could tell you it will get easier, it won't. Next week would be my son's 7th birthday and it is always rough no matter how much time goes by. I try to focus on what a wonderful gift I was given on that day. I try to think about how proud I felt when I first saw him and how excited I was that he was here even though he was 12 weeks early I was still so excited to be a mom and those are things I focus on. How happy he made me and what love I have for him. It is tough to think of those things when you are supposed to be having this big party with cake and balloons and presents but I will be praying that you will have as special of a day that you can. I will pray that God and your son give you the strength to get through another day filled with conflicting emotions and you will be in my thoughts. God bless you.
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Re : 1st Birthday

Postby julie f » Fri Sep 03, 2004 02:34 pm

Many prayers for peace and comfort for you today. I find myself going back to the "unreal" phase sometimes too, like it must be someone else's life I'm watching.

Many hugs,

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Re : 1st Birthday

Postby sjs40 » Sun Sep 05, 2004 02:44 am

Thinking of you Heather. That 'unreal' phase comes and goes.
Sorry this is a little late. Hope you had a peaceful day with happy memories of little Seth.

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Re : 1st Birthday

Postby angelkat » Mon Sep 06, 2004 11:58 pm


So sorry this is late, but I hope you had a peaceful day and wonderful memories of Seth. Your time together was made up of many wonderful's try to remember all the wonderful days you had together.

Sending you TONS of HUGS

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Re : 1st Birthday

Postby heatherbbb » Tue Sep 07, 2004 01:12 pm

Thank you all. You are awesome ladies!


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