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Re : Today

Postby mom2tori » Wed Sep 15, 2004 07:47 am

Lisa I am sorry about Jeremy. These days are always hard and I am really not sure how I get through them. Even now after 7 years of this those anniversary days get to me. I usually look through the few photos I have and hold the little robe and cap he had on at the hospital. I read through the sympathy cards that were sent to me and I just cry. The crying always makes me feel better even though it makes me look awful. We usually go out to the cemetary and I do some more crying there and then I sit in the tub, curl up in bed and try to watch one of my favorite movies. Sometimes it helps it sometimes it doesn't. I hope you find something that gives you comfort. I try to remind myself that the love I share with my son will never go away, that it is true that love never dies. I am praying for peace for you and that this day and all the others will be ones that you get through with the love in your heart. Take care and know that we are praying for you. God bless.

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Re : Today

Postby catherine » Wed Sep 15, 2004 07:42 am

Lisa, I'm so sorry that you are in so much pain. The only thing that I can suggest is to grab your bag and go outside at lunchtime.... is there a big park, or a river to walk alongside or any place like that near you?

Grief and pain on days like today, don't so much need handling, as aknowleging. I do better letting stuff out leaning up against a tree, or throwing stones in a pond. I know it must be hard, but the fact that you have these feelings is healthier than being numb or cut off from being able to grieve for Jeremy. It is wrong and unfair that he has to live in your heart and not be in your arms as well.

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Re : Today

Postby mel h. » Wed Sep 15, 2004 07:22 am

Lisa, I am so sorry about Jeremy. These anniversary dates are so difficult. Do you have some mementoes of him, like ultrasound printouts, photos, things that you bought for him when you were pregnant that you could look through when you get home from work? Even though it feels bad at the time, if you sit down or even take a walk and allow yourself to mourn and experience the grief, I think you'll feel a release. Try to tell yourself throughout the day to hang on until you get home from work and then you can do your grief work then. Easier said than done, though ... I've broken down many times at work over the last several months, since I lost my daughter in April. Luckily, I have an office that I can shut the door to and good friends at work. I understand the feelings that you're having right now, where you feel all out of sorts, like you don't know what to do with yourself and nothing feels right. That's totally normal.
Feel free to post here throughout the day. There are many women here who understand what you're going through.

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Postby lisa k » Wed Sep 15, 2004 05:49 am

Today it has been one year since I lost Jeremy. I am just at a loss as to what to do. I'm lost in general. I don't know how to mourn him...I feel like I should have taken the day off of work but I didnt think enough ahead of time. I'm just so sad. My therapist said I should do something for myself today...but I can't. I still feel as if it's all my fault(although I know it wasn't). I dont deserve to do something for myself! He deserves everything, and he is gone[V] I'm so angry! And sad! And depressed! Help!

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