This week I went to the cemetery to visit Zach and when I was driving in there was a big sign posted that says, Due to the beautification project of the grounds, only fresh flowers will be permitted on the grounds. It goes on to explain that other items will no longer be allowed to be left for loved ones. So, this means no more balloons on his birthday, no pumpkins at Halloween, no Christmas things, etc. When I got up to his grave I was devestated. He is buried in an area that is special for babies that have passed and it's a beautiful area. Parents have various momentos and gifts that are always there - pinwheels in the flower vases, stuffed animals, etc. Well, all were gone. Including the stuffed animal my parents had secured to Zach's flower vase and the little garden stake that we would use for balloons on his Bday and other occassions.
The whole place just looked so empty, and not just the baby areas. Wind chimes and garden flags, flower pots, everything was removed all over the cemetery.
I was so upset about this, I just feel like it's one less thing I can do for my son now. Andy and I had already talked about going to the pumpkin patch next month and getting one for Zach and now I won't even be able to leave it there. I understand that the cemetery is a business and that they have a need for order but, I frankly don't understand, or want to understand this new rule. I'm working on a letter to express my frustration and sadness and I guess my question is - Am I out of line? Is this the "norm" for cemeteries?
Thanks for letting me vent ladies.
Zachary James, 7/22/03-7/27/03, born at 26wks - severe pe
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