by eleni (469 Posts), Tue Oct 05, 2004 10:02 pm
One other idea to add to this post: where only fresh flowers are allowed, or even if that's what you choose to take, one thing that we do is we always buy either a double bunch of the same flowers or one really big bunch and divide it in half. Half always goes home with us as a visual replication of what we left at Nikonia's grave so we feel connected. I always hated the leaving the cemetary part and this way we always felt like we were sharing something with her. Now that we don't live in Portland any more, when we DO go back to visit the cemetary, we make sure we take a "half bunch" over to a Portland friend's house who will appreciate the gesture.