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Repost..... Intro for Danielle Berry

Postby angelkat » Thu Sep 23, 2004 03:20 pm

by angelkat (3423 Posts), Thu Sep 23, 2004 03:20 pm

Hello Everyone,

My husband and I just lost our daughter, Kathrine 1 month ago today. It's still hard to beleive that she's not coming home to us. She was our first child as a family. Kathrine was born at 30 weeks on Aug 23 but the strange thing about that day was that I thought I felt her move. Although I did have some swelling (but I wasn't worried because I had swelling for weeks that my doctors knew about and told me not to worry). I just read Amanda's story and it was like reading my last 4 weeks of my life. I had high blood pressure in the last part of my pregnancy and I was being monitored with checkups every couple of weeks but still I was alittle scared. With this being my first child I didn't know what was normal and what was not.

I'll will remember the words that the doctors spoke when my husband and I knew that she was gone. They were "I'm sorry". Everyone just broke down in tears and it was something I didn't want to beleive. I remember telling myself that the doctors are wrong and this was not happening.

Somedays I feel that there was something that I could have done but no one knew how badly I had preeclampsia until it was too late.

Amanda if you are reading this, I just want you to know that I know how hard it is for you. My husband and I are very sorry for your loss.

Thank you for letting me share my story.

Danielle

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Re : Repost..... Intro for Danielle Berry

Postby julie f » Thu Sep 23, 2004 05:19 pm

by julie f (7993 Posts), Thu Sep 23, 2004 05:19 pm

Danielle,

I am so sorry for your loss, there are just no words to describe the heartache.

I think we all go through the - What could I have done differently, What did I do wrong? questions about a million times. Please know that there is nothing you could have done. As mommies we feel it's our duty to protect our babies and when our bodies betray us, I know the guilt can be overwhelming. Preeclampsia is a horrible, horrible disease that robs us of our most precious things, our babies.

Again, I am just so very sorry for your loss.

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Re : Repost..... Intro for Danielle Berry

Postby angelkat » Thu Sep 23, 2004 06:31 pm

by angelkat (3423 Posts), Thu Sep 23, 2004 06:31 pm

Danielle,

I am so sorry to have to welcome you to the grief and loss forum.

Like Julie said, we all go through the what if's and what I could have or should have done.... Just know in your heart you did nothing wrong!.

My thoughts are with you for comfort and peace

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Re : Repost..... Intro for Danielle Berry

Postby space_coaster » Thu Sep 23, 2004 10:49 pm

by space_coaster (88 Posts), Thu Sep 23, 2004 10:49 pm

Danielle, I am so sorry for the loss of your precious Kathrine. I lost my own daughter, also my firstborn, just a few weeks ago. I so wish none of us had to go through this. Please don't blame yourself. {{{{Hugs}}}} to you.

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Re : Repost..... Intro for Danielle Berry

Postby samarasmom » Fri Sep 24, 2004 07:08 am

by samarasmom (560 Posts), Fri Sep 24, 2004 07:08 am

Danielle.
i am so sorry that you are having to experience this. You are in my prayers and I know that Katherine is watching over you and your DH. She I am sure is a beautiful angel.
Sorry if I dont know what to say alot of moms here can express better than me but I had to let you know that you, DH and daughter are in my prayers. Best wishes and lots of love to you

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Re : Repost..... Intro for Danielle Berry

Postby for faith » Fri Sep 24, 2004 09:41 am

by for faith (1749 Posts), Fri Sep 24, 2004 09:41 am

Danielle ~ I am so sorry for your loss of Kathrine. I lost my daughter who was born at 30 weeks in January. My thoughts are with you and your husband. Know that you can come here anytime, we understand. Take care,


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Re : Repost..... Intro for Danielle Berry

Postby denise » Fri Sep 24, 2004 01:47 pm

by denise (5480 Posts), Fri Sep 24, 2004 01:47 pm

Sorry to hear of the loss of your Katherine. My thoughts are with you.

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Re : Repost..... Intro for Danielle Berry

Postby heatherbbb » Fri Sep 24, 2004 06:58 pm

by heatherbbb (603 Posts), Fri Sep 24, 2004 06:58 pm

Danielle,
I'm so sorry to hear about Kathrine. I imagine the doctor's words were the worst thing you ever heard. I am so sorry for your loss and especially the utter shock of it. I lost my son in February after a 5 1/2 month fight in the NICU. We knew for the last 2 weeks he probably wasn't going to make it. We were able to prepare ourselves to lose him, though I don't think it hurt any less. I hope you will be able to work through all the stages of grief. Grieving is so very difficult. My husband and I went to a support group for 6 months that really helped us. Life has gotten easier after 7 months though I still get hit with periods of sadness. Please take care and let us know how you are doing once in a while.

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Re : Repost..... Intro for Danielle Berry

Postby amcyates » Sat Sep 25, 2004 09:11 am

by amcyates (14 Posts), Sat Sep 25, 2004 09:11 am

Danielle,
I just wanted to let you know that I did read your post. I'm so sorry for your loss. Your baby's death had nothing to do with the fact that you weren't aware of what was normal or not. Lillian was my third pregnancy, and I had *no* idea of what was to come. We will probably never know exactly what went wrong with our babies, but I am finding some comfort in knowing that God knew exactly what was happening and that He was with her (and me) the entire time, and that he continues to hold her safe in his arms until I can see her again. I'm so sorry you had to go through this experience.

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Re : Repost..... Intro for Danielle Berry

Postby tinalowe » Sat Sep 25, 2004 11:06 am

by tinalowe (288 Posts), Sat Sep 25, 2004 11:06 am

Danielle,

I just wanted to say I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family in your grief.

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