by forlogan (84 Posts), Sun Oct 03, 2004 09:38 pm
I have been hestitant about joining any support groups here in my area. The hospital that I delivered in was wonderful in providing us all sorts of literature and support group information, but I have yet to even look at it very closely.
First of all, I live in Utah, a very heavily populated area of the LDS faith (Mormons) and I am Catholic. I know that doesn't sound like much of a problem except that I don't want to go to a support group meeting and have religion shoved down my throat. That happens quite often in Utah. I think that it may be helpful in some ways to seek out the support, but also frustrating in others. I have a lot of respect for people of the LDS faith, but unfortunately in Utah they all think EVERYONE should believe exactly what they do. It's a dilema.
My faith is a very important part of my life and God has been ever present during my entire experience. I seek His help in dealing with my pain and sorrow and I know he'll be there for me.
A fellow parishioner and I have been trying to start a support group to help women who have lost babies to miscarriage or have had trouble conceiving at my church. Unfortunately, we haven't had any people respond to our notice in the bulletin. I think that this grieving process is very personal to some and they just can't imagine sharing it with anyone. My husband is my main source of support right now. I have a wonderful family, but he is my strength and love in this whole experience. I don't think he is really dealing with the loss of our son yet though. He is a very quiet person and not very verbal. Me, I need to talk. He, deals with things very differntly. He has stopped going to church...he is very angry with God right now. Has anyone else dealt with this? What can I do to help him?
Again, thanks to all of you for being so wonderful. I feel so much love here in this sight and look forward to "meeting" all of you.
Talia - 7 (full term - no complications) 1-31-97
Logan - stillborn due to severe PE - 5-16-04
"Some only dream of angels...we held one in our arms"