Melissa ~ Yes, I think we have all been there. My SIL, who was due the same day as me, had her beautiful boy, 3 weeks after we lost Faith. Another SIL is due next month and just went to her shower this past weekend (the first I have been too since our loss in January). It was still hard, 9 months later. I have a co-worker also due in January. I also have sent gifts over the last 9 months, but not attended baby functions. It really doesn't matter how they feel, do what is best for you. Maybe just give a gift, but don't attend the shower. For me it was easier to make up excuses that to be honest, do what is best for you.
Tyler - 4 (36 wks, PIH/mild PE))
Angel baby - 1/20/03 (11 wks)
Faith Kristine - 1/5/04-1/30/04 (30 weeks due to severe PE, passed due to NEC/Sepsis (preemie complications))
OUR LITTLE MIRACLE due 6/5/05
trying for #2 to share our lives with since 09/02