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Re : one year ago...

Postby michal » Mon Nov 22, 2004 09:30 am

Hi Callies mom
I also had a similar experiences to you after losing Dina a year ago .
I was away from work for 3 months and nobody said a word to me at work either a year later .My siblings and parents, and a very close friend, all remembered which was very touching but my husband's family did not acknowledge the anniversary of Dina's death at all which was very hurtful and makes me want to have very little to do with them .
Me and my daughter Tali spoke a lot about Dina on the anniversary of her death and lit a candle . We aslo let go a helium balloon with a note on it to her and I added some plants to the little garden that I have made in her memory .
I think all the little things help us moms even if no-one else remembers.
I also have an only child .I cannot have any more children .
It hurts me that she is an only child but she does not know any different and she is happy even though she does talk of her little sister who died and I am sure whe would love to have someone around .
Take Care
Mom to Tali ,aged 6 (HELLP 32 weeks,5/3/1998), mom to my first angel in heaven (HELLP , 20 weeks , 20/2/2002 ) , mom to my seccond angel in heaven ,Dina Haya Hodaya ( HELLP 25 weeks,4 days ,29/10/2003-4/11/2003 )

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Re : one year ago...

Postby mandj107 » Sat Nov 13, 2004 10:52 am

I am so sorry for everything that you have been through, and for how alone you have been left to feel by your family. It makes me so angry how others can not be "inconvenienced" by sharing our pain for 2 minutes. There are, however, so many people who are able to offer love, support, and understanding. Please know you are not alone in your thoughts and feelings. You are in my prayers.

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Postby denise » Mon Nov 08, 2004 05:57 pm

Just wanted to offer my support and to let you know I will keep you in my thoughts. Hugs to you.

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Re : one year ago...

Postby heatherbbb » Mon Nov 08, 2004 02:22 pm

I talked to my mother about this post and about how my inlaws didn't remember my son's birthday. She told me that she would have never acknowledged Seth's b-day had she not read some grieving literature for Grandparents that our funeral home gave her. The literature said that it is so important to parents that people remember their baby's birthday. She said that when she got home, she wrote Seth's b-day in her calendar so she wouldn't forget. She said that if she had not read that literature, she would probably never had done that. I thought that was very interesting. She told me I ought to cut my MIL some slack. It's normal in society not to bring up anniversaries that could potentially cause us pain. I feel grateful to have such a sensitive mother (and one who read the grieving literature).

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Re : one year ago...

Postby space_coaster » Fri Nov 05, 2004 05:19 pm

Many hugs to you, Callie's Mom. You and Callie are in my thoughts.

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Re : one year ago...

Postby mom2tori » Thu Nov 04, 2004 04:23 pm

Callies mom- just wanted to add my thoughts and prayers. You are not alone in what you are feeling and may it comfort you a little to know that others understand and feel the same pain you are feeling. God bless!

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Re : one year ago...

Postby josiah1112 » Thu Nov 04, 2004 03:33 pm

I'm so sorry Callie's mom. My son's birthdate is also
coming up next week and one year ago today I was hospitalized..
I hope you find something to do that brings you comfort as you
honor your precious baby. Big cyber hugs to you.

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Re : one year ago...

Postby angelkat » Thu Nov 04, 2004 03:28 pm

Your in my thoughts and prayers for comfort,strength and peace...

Hugging you tightly in my heart

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Re : one year ago...

Postby julie f » Thu Nov 04, 2004 02:43 pm

You are in my prayers today and I will keep you and Callie close at heart.

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Re : one year ago...

Postby for faith » Thu Nov 04, 2004 02:32 pm

Callie's mom - I am thinking of you and your family today. So sorry that no one has remembered the date, know that we here understand. I know the feeling of families not talking about it, I pretty much have the same.

I am so sorry for such a horrible experience for you at the hospital, I had no idea that things like that went on today, that is just horrible. I know what you mean about your 6 year old, I have a 4 year old who really wants his baby sister. It is heartbreaking.

I hope you find a way to honor Callie in your life today and you find some peace. I am so, sorry you have to experience this. HUGS. I hope it is ok if I add Callie to our date list, I think it is a special way for all of us to remember everyone.

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Tyler - 4 (36 wks, PIH/mild PE))
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Faith Kristine - 1/5/04-1/30/04 (30 weeks due to severe PE, passed due to NEC/Sepsis (preemie complications))

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