by michal (20 Posts), Mon Nov 22, 2004 09:30 am
Hi Callies mom
I also had a similar experiences to you after losing Dina a year ago .
I was away from work for 3 months and nobody said a word to me at work either a year later .My siblings and parents, and a very close friend, all remembered which was very touching but my husband's family did not acknowledge the anniversary of Dina's death at all which was very hurtful and makes me want to have very little to do with them .
Me and my daughter Tali spoke a lot about Dina on the anniversary of her death and lit a candle . We aslo let go a helium balloon with a note on it to her and I added some plants to the little garden that I have made in her memory .
I think all the little things help us moms even if no-one else remembers.
I also have an only child .I cannot have any more children .
It hurts me that she is an only child but she does not know any different and she is happy even though she does talk of her little sister who died and I am sure whe would love to have someone around .
Mom to Tali ,aged 6 (HELLP 32 weeks,5/3/1998), mom to my first angel in heaven (HELLP , 20 weeks , 20/2/2002 ) , mom to my seccond angel in heaven ,Dina Haya Hodaya ( HELLP 25 weeks,4 days ,29/10/2003-4/11/2003 )