by catherine (2832 Posts), Wed Feb 04, 2004 07:46 am
Hi Rebecca, welcome to the forum. I have to say I can't imagine that you can dodge the preeclampsia bullet this time. However, what I would guess you need most right now is a PLAN! I don't know how you manage at all with such a group of tinies under the best of non-pregnant circumstances. I would suggest that you email Michelle (Moderator of the On Bedrest forum) and ask her what she did to line up her support staff. She was in a similar situation to you and had anticipated the bedrest boom being dropped on her. I think that it struck at 22 weeks. Nancy (Paljane) also worked through the process. I'm thinking now is the time to gather friends, relatives, people from work/church/neighbors and bluntly ask/beg/demand some help. Meals, kid watching time, laundry assistance etc. What is DH doing to help? Does he need some direction so that he gets the "picture"? I'm pretty sure that people will chime in here with really good tips and suggestions for managing. I'm sure that you feel like your priorities are torn, taking care of the kids on one hand and looking out for this baby on the other. I can tell you that the number 1 priority is you, if you're not able to take the best care of yourself possible, both of the other issues might end up irrelevant!!!
Keep checking back Rebecca, some of our most experienced managers aren't all that regular posters (many kids... little time) but they will show up to give you their best advice.
I'm sending some e-chocolate with my best wishes.. best thing for a diabetic I guess,
Mom to Finn, Lucy (preeclampsia and HELLP) and Chloe.
Moderator HELLP Syndrome Survivors