is my Dr. an idiot?

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Re : is my Dr. an idiot?

Postby catherinesmom » Sun Mar 12, 637989 2:05 pm

I agree with mom29. I would see the peri you already know an hour away and see if he has any recommendations of anyone else close to you. Do what feels safe to you.

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Postby mom29 » Sat Mar 11, 637989 6:25 pm

I agree with everyone else that you need to have a dr. you are comfortable with. If the one hour drive will be too much for you (will you be driving in bad winter weather?) maybe you could ask the new peri. if he can recommend an OB for you to see.

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Postby heather j » Sat Mar 11, 637989 2:35 pm

I agree, go with the doctor an hour away. It will be a hassle getting to and from appointments at that distance, but well worth it in the long run knowing you are comfortable and confident in your doctor's knowledge and management style - and it's only for six more months. There's a lot to be said for first impressions. I agree with the others, the answers he gave you would be unacceptable to me.

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Postby leftcoastgirl » Sat Mar 11, 637989 7:15 am

I am extremely concerned with your history that your doctor is treating you this way. "Seeing how the pregnancy goes" to me is not something that is in your best interest (wow I just read your signature). If it were me personally I would stick with the peri that is an hour drive away. Maybe you will find a sense of peace knowing you will be watched like you need to - even though I also realize the drive might become difficult at some point because you have your hands full with your other children. To me it would still be worth it. Were you ever tested for underlying disorders?

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Re : is my Dr. an idiot?

Postby mnmom » Fri Mar 10, 637989 8:35 pm

Wow. With your history? Wow. I agree, be assertive. You have many months to go here, hopefully[:D], and you need to be comfortable with your care. If this OB will continue to be involved, my suggestion would be to really sit down with him, point out the issues in each of your pregnancies and tell him you really want a plan for how he will monitor this pregnancy. If you still get the brush off, I'd be looking elsewhere.

You are one busy mommy, aren't you? Good luck!!

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Postby kris21225 » Fri Mar 10, 637989 8:09 pm

I live in one of those "you don't see the specialist until something is wrong" places and this time I didn't get to see the specialist until after I spent a weekend in the hospital. Then when I did get in to see him, I'd gotten sick enough that he had me wheeled over to L&D and I had my daughter by emergency c-section 2 days later. Meanwhile my actual OB was out of the country on vacation, so I say stick to your guns and do what makes you feel safe. I should have been more assertive like you. He never gave me any test results either. He'd say, "So how'd the gludcose test go?" Didn't you get the results? Or once he had me go for a second sonogram because the 1st didn't get good enough pictures or the spine and heart. At the next appt I asked if the 2nd sono got everything. He replied, "Hmm. I don't know, I never got it. I'll have to have someone check on that." So trust yourself.

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Re : is my Dr. an idiot?

Postby josiah1112 » Fri Mar 10, 637989 2:51 pm

Wow,Boo!You are one busy momma!!
I would go to whoever you are comfortable with.I can't believe your OB said he would treat your pregnancy like a normal one and "see what happens!!!"This is awful!!!It's a big red flag in my book.If you can swing the one hour ride I would say do it.Peace of mind and good care are of utmost importance.

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is my Dr. an idiot?

Postby mommyboo » Wed Mar 01, 637989 7:32 am

or is it just me?
a little background. With all my pregnancies, I have seen a perinatologist full time. This time around, we have moved and to see the peri here I have to be referred by an OB first. So I went to my first appointment around 6 weeks although I thought it was 7. They wouldn't let me in earlier than that. The OB, after getting my history, tells me that he is just going to treat this like any other pregnancy and see how it goes. I ask for a referral to the peri and he tells me to come back in 4 weeks and he'll give me one then. So I wait 4 weeks with no idea who to call if there is a problem, I go in and he tells me my labs are normal and I'm fine. UMM..... EXCUSE ME! 600mg for my 24hr urine is not normal. I'm also diabetic and my A1c was extremely high although I don't find that out for 4 weeks because they didn't call me. He also doesn't seem concerned about it although everything I've read says high sugars at this point is what causes birth defects. It's probably too late now since I'm 11 weeks and it just makes me so mad.

He finally gives me a referral for the peri only after I tell him that I am just going to go back to the peri I was seeing before (he's an hour drive away). So I have an appointment for the peri now but he has me coming back in 4 weeks anyway and will be seeing me along with the peri. I DON'T WANT TO SEE HIM!

So what do I do? Just wait for the peri and see what he says? I'm afraid he will agree with the OB and I'll be stuck seeing both of them. Should I just go back to the other peri despite the distance? I don't want a repeat of my last baby (or the others for that matter).

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