I CERTAINLY know how you feel, Rebecca. It's so hard for someone who hasn't been through a tough pregnancy and/or birth to understand. One way I try to look at it sometimes is that hopefully I can educate others by telling my story. With my first pregnancy, I knew NO-ONE really that had had a troubled pregnancy. At work, everyone seemed to work right until their due date, and feel great. I felt like that was what I supposed to do, even when I was swelling up extremely and feeling worse and worse. When I finally just couldn't work anymore (and a day later my dr. told me to stop working if I hadn't), so many people acted like I was some kind of wimp---even my mother, who had breezed through her pregnancies. I wish so much someone had been there to tell me I was doing the right thing, and that others had had a not-perfect pregnancy.
But I can't say I don't wish sometimes I was one of those people who had no reason to know that pregnancy is not always easy!!
Suzanne (38) and DH Tony (42) + William (9, severe PE, born at 32 weeks) and Freddy (6, fairly typical pregnancy) and Baby Girl(due approx. 8/29/04!)