Catherine, the shrek description is right on! Those pix are so gross. JABBA!
I think it is a little denial and a lotta fear.(on their part(s).
I think you are wise to want to educate yourself.
At some point, with many people, you just have to accept the limits of the relationship, and that this could be one of them.
We have a fantastic support group here, that will never tire of the subject.
Within my Dr.'s practice I can already tell which appreciate that I am gaining knowledge and which are annoyed by my armchair physician outlook, mixed with my natural anxiety. (although I find it pretty chaming[;)])
So..., instead of making an issue of either, I just try to modify the relationship with each individul, while maintaining a strong sense of self.(can ya' tell I have given this a lotta thought??)
Anyhow, I am always interested in what you have to say, and will offer an open ear whenever ya need one.(and I know the other memebers will too, since they do it for me every day!)
Mama to Bella,1/02/03, born 33 and 5/7 weeks at 3 lbs,6oz.Pre-E and PIH,& HELLP.
Babygirl #2,EDD 6/24/04