by megansmom (768 Posts), Mon Apr 19, 2004 11:30 am
Hi Amanda and Tim!
I am glad to hear that you are still hanging in there. However I am sorry to hear that the doctors aren't listening to you and your wishes. I experienced firsthand how your OB can be "dismissive". I think you need to listen to your body and what it is telling you. I also believe that doctors are pretty smart. They have, or at least should have, the medical knowledge. As far as your BP goes, your true reading may be while lying down. I know you want it to be low, but since you are lying down all of the time now, that may be the reading you should go by. Of course, that is just my opinion. I am in no way a medical doctor. And again you know your body best.
I don't know much about the criteria for delivery. With Megan, they just said we are going to deliver and get her here safely, and I said okay. I do know that Megan was born at 34 weeks and she did okay. Those 12 days in the NICU were excrutiating, but we made it through. Her lungs were not developed (i did not get the steroid shot), and she had a hard time learning how to eat. I understand the fear you must have considering the loss of Aidan, but I do think the longer you can hang in there the better off Maija will be. I know you are not putting your own health before Miaja's. I know you will do whatever it takes to get her here healthy! I know she is your number one concern!
As far as not being happy with your doctors... I say go with your gut. If they are not making you comfortable, find a new one. It is not too late to do that. Oh how I wish I had followed this advice when I had Megan. I did not have a good experience with my doctor (as you know from our visit), and I wish I had spoken up and gotten a doctor that I could speak favorably of. I have a happy ending, but the experience was stressful and not a time I like to look back on. How unfortunate. Added stress is definitely not something you need right now, so PLEASE don't let your doctor do that to you. IF YOU ARE UNHAPPY, SWITCH!!!! I just cannot express that enough. As I said before you know yourself best, don't forget to listen to what your body is telling you! Then kick and scream and throw a big fit until someone listens.
I am always thinking of you, Tim, and Maija. You are continually in my prayers. Thanks for keeping us updated. Hang in there!
Amanda, SAHM to Megan born at 34 weeks due to pe