I know just what you are saying, Kimberly! My second pregnancy was quite close to normal, but I NEVER relaxed and felt sure it would stay that way. This one is having many ups and downs, and in a very strange way it's almost more what I expected. Catherine, you really are right on in saying that for some of us, pregnancy really is more of a medical issue than a miracle! To me, the babies and children are the miracle! Not that I don't think pregancy is too, but I think you are so right that it's not the process, it's the result! But friends and family often do view this as a negative view. Since there was such a long time between pregnancies for me, a lot of my friends now didn't ever know me when I was pregnant previously. I thought I had told them enough so they would understand, but they really don't---one friend was quite upset when I cut short a get-together "just because I had a headache and swollen hands". She told me later "I just don't think it's normal to worry that much!" I was so upset at first, but realized later than I just don't think it's totally possible to understand unless you have experienced a tough pregancy!
Suzanne (38) and DH Tony (42) + William (9, severe PE, born at 32 weeks) and Freddy (6, fairly typical pregnancy) and Baby Girl(due approx. 8/29/04!)