Bad appointment

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cheleandcallidora
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Re : Bad appointment

Postby cheleandcallidora » Thu Aug 27, 2009 01:17 pm

Thanks everyone! I dropped off my 24hr today and got blood drawn so now I just wait for the results. My Dr. came in and talked to me today about how he has a hard time leaning towards PE because I had it before and my DH is the father of both. I hate when you have a different opinion on things than your Dr. does. There is proof here that people do get it more than once! He is a good Dr. though and is taking good care of us. My new concern is my DD is sick and has a temp of 103.1 :( I am so afraid of getting sick and giving DS one more thing to deal with. There are enough problems already without adding that to the list.

Did anyone ever have kidney pain? Mine are killing me! I know I am not dehydrated. I filled the entire container on my 24hr and almost didn't have room for it all. I didn't have any problems with it when I had my DD and I was a lot sicker than I am now.

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Re : Bad appointment

Postby kbunsey » Wed Aug 26, 2009 07:27 pm

I agree with Mom29 that docs in the same area usually won't critique other doctors, or they will only to a point. I had that happen in my first pregnancy when after everything was said on done the main MFM on my case at the special hospital said, "this isn't what I would have predicted for you had you gotten care at our hospital from the start of your pregnancy" (as if I wouldn't have chosen that had I known I'd be getting PE in my 6th month of pregnancy) and then later at another follow-up appointment the same doctor said, "we don't know if we could have done any better for your care here." So...it is really just completely frustrating and they won't speak out against each other unless something is very obviously wrong, wrong, wrong. And sometimes the lines are so blurred and sometimes there are different opinions and preferences even among the MFM/High Risk community.

Sigh....it is terribly frustrating.

The main thing for you is that you feel confident in your care, get the attention that you need - promptly, and have someone paying close attention to your status which can change quickly. And that like the PE homepage says, "Trust yourself" and go into L&D if you aren't feeling well. You don't need anybody to tell you when you aren't feeling well - and if you go in and they send you back home after checking everything - so what. Better to be checked out and getting attention. Again, to quote Mom29 - "your health and you baby's health" are the #1 priority. Do what makes you feel best!


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Re : Bad appointment

Postby preg29 » Wed Aug 26, 2009 01:57 pm

So frustrating!!! Sorry things are going so rough. Hang in there!!!

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Re : Bad appointment

Postby mom29 » Wed Aug 26, 2009 01:19 pm

A mfm is not going to tell you your reg. OB isn't providing you with good care because the reg. OB's give them referrals.

When I asked the mfm if he would deliver if needed while my reg. OB was on vacation he told me the doctors at my community hospital were good. Then I explained in my previous pregnancy that when the peri. said it was time to deliver that night and sent me over to L&D at the community hospital the house OB sent me back home after 15 minutes of monitoring. So he agreed to deliver if necessary, but said I needed to tell my OB that is was my idea because the reg. OB would never refer another patient to him if he thought he was patient stealing.

When the OB was sending me home postpartum with high bp and not increasing my meds. one of the nurses whispered to me that I should call the mfm as soon as I got home. I called the mfm and he tripled my meds.!

Don't worry about the possibility of your OB not wanting to refer you back to the mfm, your health and your baby's health is more important than someone's ego.

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Re : Bad appointment

Postby kbunsey » Wed Aug 26, 2009 01:09 pm

I too like the idea of getting back with an MFM. Keep resting when you can, watching how you feel, fluids up. Will be thinking about you.

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Re : Bad appointment

Postby sonja » Wed Aug 26, 2009 10:37 am

I think that being co-managed by your MFM right now would be one of the things that could take some of the stress off of you. It is always good to know that you are in the best hands.

As far as bed rest, different doctors will make different recommendations about when/or if they want ladies to start it. There is really no evidence that it works, although many gals around here feel like it bought them some time. I would ask your OB for his recommendations.

Take care.

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Re : Bad appointment

Postby cheleandcallidora » Wed Aug 26, 2009 09:30 am

Thanks! I didn't mean that the insurance was a hassle for me, I was just thinking maybe that's why my Dr. seemed funny about me going. I don't know why Dr.s sometimes get funny about you seeing a specialist. It isn't that I don't think my Dr. is able to handle my care. It is just nice to have someone who deals more with this stuff helping out. I don't know.

Should I be asking for a BPP every week? Right now I am scheduled for 2 NSTs next week and a BPP the folowing. It seemed odd to me that they wouldn't want to watch a little bit closer now that we know there are problems.

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Re : Bad appointment

Postby jamie w » Wed Aug 26, 2009 03:51 am

I know insurance can be a pain but in the long run a hassle with the insurance is far better than a brain damaged or dead baby or momma. I do not say that to be harsh but if things went south I know that you would never forgive yourself for not having done everything in your power to try to change the situation. I would push to go back to the MFM and in the mean time if ANYTHING feels off then you should head immediately to L&D. I hope things get easier for you soon! (((HUGS)))

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Re : Bad appointment

Postby cheleandcallidora » Tue Aug 25, 2009 11:02 pm

I can ask on Thursday if I can be sent back to the MFM but it is a lot of work as far as insurance goes. I get the feeling my Dr. doesn't like me going there either. The last peri I saw told me my Dr.s were great Dr.s and he trusted they could provide me with all the care I needed but at that point he also said you couldn't have a better looking baby than I had. So maybe I can call and see what they think. I am 34 weeks now so if I can just make it 3 more weeks that would be perfect. I can't seem to relax enough to get to sleep. I am so worried about my little guy.

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Re : Bad appointment

Postby mom29 » Tue Aug 25, 2009 10:41 pm

Seconding Jamie's suggestion that you get the MFM back on board.


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