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Re: Disconnected from pregnancy? Am I alone?

Posted: Wed Feb 16, 2011 11:21 am
by kbielec
I am not yet pregnant so can't speak to those feelings but we've been trying since June '10 and I am scared sick. We got the green light after we lost our daughter three years ago this March and we have a "plan" set in place with our OB and MFM for when we do get pregnant - but I would lie if I said I didn't feel some relief every 28 days. I get excited to be pregnant but then when AF arrives, I feel a moment of relief - then guilt for feeling the relief. It's so hard. Hang in there

Re: Disconnected from pregnancy? Am I alone?

Posted: Tue Feb 15, 2011 06:35 pm
by tylerlanesmommy
Well I guess I have good and bad news to report. I went to my 29 week check up on friday and my bp 169/115. I have "white coat syndrome", but that was way high even for my white coat syndrome. So here we go again with PIH. With my first pregnancy I went on bedrest and no meds. This time around I'm now taking Lebetalol. No bedrest as of yet.
The good news is that the Labetalol seems to be having quite a calming effect on me. The last 3 days have been great! I've actually been excited about buying baby clothes and decorating the nursery! I hate that I have to be medicated during my pregnancy, but at least I am Finally making a connection with my baby!
BTW, does anyone have any previous experience with Labetalol? Everything I see online says they don't knkow how it effects the baby. Just curious?

Re: Disconnected from pregnancy? Am I alone?

Posted: Tue Feb 08, 2011 11:34 pm
by lucy
Thanks me too!!

Re: Disconnected from pregnancy? Am I alone?

Posted: Tue Feb 01, 2011 07:18 am
by tylerlanesmommy
Thanks Lucy. I'll keep my fingers crossed for both of us to have healthy full term babies this time around!

Re: Disconnected from pregnancy? Am I alone?

Posted: Mon Jan 31, 2011 01:53 pm
by lucy
I can say your defintely not alone here, I lost my son after getting pre-eclampsia, than lost my daughter when she was nearly 6 wks old after again having preeclampsia and being on bedrest until I had her at 37 weeks,went on to have two healthy little girls, but for some reason this pregnancy I have stayed disconnected. I am 22 weeks and I guess it's not "as" bad as it was earlier in the pregnancy but I still have not completely come around. I keep hoping that it will happen with the 3D ultrasounds that should be coming up and defintely when the baby is born.

I too felt super guilty but I do think it's a way of protecting yourself, once that beautiful baby is placed in your arms you'll have no trouble bonding probably. Hang in there.
Lucy

Re: Disconnected from pregnancy? Am I alone?

Posted: Mon Jan 31, 2011 12:32 am
by tylerlanesmommy
I'm feeling the same way. Up until today, I thought I was just depressed due to hormones etc. But today I realized that I've been putting up a guard so I wouldn't get too attached..."just in case". My son, Tyler, was a 34 weeker due to my severe PE. I went on strict bedrest with him at 28 weeks due to PIH. Now, six years later, I will be 28 weeks with my second child on wednesday. It's hitting me harder than I expected. Even though this pregnancy has been good so far, it kind of feels like I am waiting for the other shoe to fall...so to speak. I haven't been able to get really excited with this pregnancy. With Tyler, I read every baby book out there and would spend hours singing and reading to him while he was in the womb. Aside from ultrasounds and kicks, I'm having a hard time even fathoming that I'm really going to have another baby. I feel guilty that I am not giving her the same attention that I gave him. I'm so glad I logged on here today. I was really starting to think that I was alone with these feelings.

Re: Disconnected from pregnancy? Am I alone?

Posted: Sun Jan 23, 2011 06:34 pm
by celticepona
no you are not alone. I have become to absolutely hate pregnancy but want my baby safe and sound NOW! I wish I could fast forward too. Dont be ashamed of how you feel. It is normal.

Re: Disconnected from pregnancy? Am I alone?

Posted: Fri Jan 21, 2011 12:49 am
by ktoves
I too have felt the same way with my current pregnancy. I had Preeclampsia with my first then went on to have severe Preeclampsia with my second. Afterwards I was diagnosed with heart valve disease and sponge kidney disease. At 23 years old, it was a tough pill to swallow. I became pregnant with my 3rd and miscarried at 13 weeks. After deciding that there was to be no more children I became pregnant again before my husband's vasectomy. I am now 14 weeks pregnant and I went through a good month of feeling like it was the end of the world as if it was a death sentence. I am extremely fearful and it makes me so sad that I can't just enjoy this pregnancy. Every headache I have I get nervous, every palpitation or racing heart, every hiccup I think that something bad is or could be happening. I wont feel okay until 2 months after delivering a healthy baby. You are definitely not alone in feeling you have some distance with the pregnancy.

Re: Disconnected from pregnancy? Am I alone?

Posted: Thu Jan 20, 2011 05:27 pm
by cettvm
You are absolutely not alone! I had PE in my first pregnancy with lot of difficult emotions and little family support. I hadnt thought about another pregnancy until almost 5years now.. but as I started seeing my daughter need a sibling, I brought some courage on and am pregnant now 35weeks. To tell you the truth, I have unconsciously not bonded with this poor child of mine; it just grew to where it is now. Perhaps my bonding will begin after the baby is born.. I could reassure you that your feelings are not at all out of place.. but be sure to have some moments of joy since time through pregnancy does fly by; despite our worries and anxieties.. Take care//

Re: Disconnected from pregnancy? Am I alone?

Posted: Thu Jan 20, 2011 11:10 am
by l412angel
I did feel that way from week 10-20 with this pregnancy. Afraid to invest my emotions! Your not alone!