by eleni (471 Posts), Thu Mar 22, 2012 11:34 am
There are lots of "positive" stories out there, as well. The key, I believe, is remembering that everybody's "next time" is different and the best thing you can do for yourself in a subsequent pregnancy is to know that YOU are armed with better information now, that you are with a health care provider who is armed with better information (i.e., more proactive about monitoring), and that you are embracing ideas and people who can feed your sense of well-being and peacefulness. There's a difference between living each moment with a sense of impending doom (not a good idea) and knowing that IF (not when) a concerning symptom presents itself that you will know better this time what to do with that.
I actually had more people around me - well, really just my mother - who was more clearly anxious then me on my "next time". But I felt so much more empowered and with the right health care provider, that even though I did get PE again, it was later (33wk vs. 29wk) and I was so much more in tune with the monitoring and management of it, that I wasn't such an emotional wreck. I was able to hang in there under hospital care for a couple weeks, bought my little guy a few more weeks and even though he had a couple weeks in Hotel NICU, he is now an amazing, compassionate, brilliant 12 year old. And I'm the stronger for it, too!
Hang in there...know that your feelings are normal AND that you can/will persevere!
Eleni Z. Tsigas
2x PE survivor; 29 week daughter died, 35 week IUGR son made it after 2 weeks of NICU fun; 3rd pregnancy PE-free resulted in strapping 8 pounder son, born at term.