by aundapenner (1624 Posts), Thu Mar 06, 2014 07:07 am
First off, congratulations! How exciting to be pregnant!! and how scary.
Nothing I can say will help relieve your fears - you have lived the nightmare.
But, I can tell you things I did to help me come to terms, especially the second time around.
I had a plan.
A plan for nearly everything.
From the beginning, I saw my regular OB and MFM interchangeably ... i.e. OB one week, the MFM two weeks later, the OB two weeks later, the MFM two weeks later ... until things went awry.
But I had a plan - I had childcare set up for my son. I had friends on call ALL the time to remind me I had a plan (which, surprisingly, I needed to be reminded of quite a few times!).
We now live by my inlaws - so I had a plan for them to help out too.
I just tried to control the things I could because as we all know, PE pregnancies are each unique and there are very little (well, really almost none) things we can take control over.
So I recommend, make plans. Make plans for every thing that you can and celebrate the milestones. I was thrilled when I hit the 14-week mark. Then it was 20 weeks, then problems happened around the 27 week mark, where I was hospitalized (alone and in a foreign country) then finally made it to full-term.
(((hugs))) and know we are all here to cheer you on and give you shoulders to lean/cry on.
Alice - survivor of PE twice and mama to Heinrich (Henry), May 2006, born at 34+2 at 4lbs 5 oz and Sofia, February 2009, born at 37+1 at 6lbs 5oz.
Very thankful for the PF - who I found after Henry was dealing with preemie issues.