New prospective father

Are you worried about your partners pregnancy? Has your partner already had preeclampsia? Do you have advice for other dads who could be going through similar experiences as yourself? Post here!
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Re : New prospective father

Postby mada » Wed Feb 18, 2004 06:44 am

You have a great sense of humor!!! Too funny!!! A "bouncing" baby girl[:)] Hope you two are holding in there!!! Good thoughts!!

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Re : New prospective father

Postby paul1968uk » Wed Feb 18, 2004 04:48 am

quote:
Originally posted by SJS40

I even spent my 40th birthday in hospital with a gallon container under my bed with my 24hr urine sample!


It could be much worse - the woman in the bed opposite my wife is 37 weeks pregnant and had her 40th birthday yesterday. 6 weeks ago while on holiday in Jamaica, she was looking over the hotel balcony when she suddenly blacked out and fell three stories onto concrete.

She broke both arms and both legs in the fall, but otherwise both she and her baby are doing just fine. She gets the casts removed today - she can't wait to have a bath, and they plan to induce her in two weeks time.

She is planning on calling her baby girl 'Angel' when she is born. I think 'Bounce' might be more suitable.

It just goes to show how resiliant these unborn babies can be doesn't it ?

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Re : New prospective father

Postby paul1968uk » Wed Feb 18, 2004 04:39 am

quote:
Originally posted by sam

I wish you and your family the "best of British".




Well, I'm Irish, my wife is English - we are sure to be having some debate later about which passport we get for the child.

I'm grateful for any luck right now - British or otherwise.

This has however re-inforced my faith in the National Health Service - long may it continue.

I had asked my wife if we could have the baby born in Wales or Scotland, so that it would be eligible for any of three national Rugby squads, but she wasn't keen on that idea :)

Anyway - I'm off to the hospital again to see the consultant.

Paul

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Re : New prospective father

Postby sjs40 » Wed Feb 18, 2004 01:27 am

Hi Paul
Wishing you and Sarah all the best. Sarah is in the best place, and they are obviously monitoring her well.

I did have a giggle about your comments re peeing in pots etc - that really brought back memories of my stay in hospital. I even spent my 40th birthday in hospital with a gallon container under my bed with my 24hr urine sample! Steroid shots were a bit sore, but our little girl was born with no breathing problems at 27wks 2 days after I had the shots.

I know just what you mean about the dog sitting by the door looking for Sarah - I had one very confused cat waiting for me, and he was really clingy when I got home. He even insisted on accompanying me to the loo!

Don't worry about missing the parentcraft classes, we hadnt even started ours and we coped just fine.

I hope you are getting the help and support you need too. Chris has commented that while I was in hospital he found it really hard because he was worried about me, worried about the baby, then he came home to a worried cat and endless phone calls asking about me....not many people asked about him...

Keep us updated

Sue (Havant, UK)





Sue (40)
Chris (37)
DD Eleanor Susan (Ellie)
born at 27wks severe PE
24 July 03 - 20 August 03

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Re : New prospective father

Postby sam » Tue Feb 17, 2004 09:22 pm

Dear Paul
I am sorry that you and your wife sarah are having an anxious time with this pregnancy. I wish you both the best and of course to the little one. Sarah is in the best place possible right now and i hope that she is being well looked after and monitored. I wish you and your family the "best of British".

xxxxx sam
from London

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Re : New prospective father

Postby wpratley » Tue Feb 17, 2004 07:22 pm

Hi Paul-

I wish you and your wife the best. I delivered my son at 33 weeks and had the steroid shots, he was born 3lbs. 12oz. (not sure what the conversion is) and has done very well. I'm glad to hear that she has made it to 34 weeks and she is in the best place she can be. I was able to carry the baby for 40 extra days by being hospitalized which is so important for the baby. They monitor you closely but in the end it's all worth it! Good Luck to you.

Wendy (32)
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Ryan - 3/5/03 - 33 weeks severe p/e

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Re : New prospective father

Postby natan » Tue Feb 17, 2004 04:54 pm

Hi Paul
It is nice to see husbands get involved. Best wishes to you and Sarah.


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Re : New prospective father

Postby catherine » Tue Feb 17, 2004 02:28 pm

Thanks for the flashback Paul [:)], my husband and I are Irish, although we have lived here in the USA for over 10 years now. I'm always being taunted on the phone by my parents and parents-in-law for talking about diapers. We used to say nappies but nobody here knew what we were talking about!

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Re : New prospective father

Postby paul1968uk » Tue Feb 17, 2004 02:13 pm

Thanks for that website - I'll take a look

I'm sure everything will be fine - it's just kind hard not having her at home. the dog keeps sitting by the door waiting for her :(

As for parentcraft clases - i have spent enough time changing my younger brother's and my nephews nappies for it to be second nature to me, but it of more help to my wife who has never handled a baby.

That said, we both handle dogs and horses - it really isn't that different, just a little less muck to clear up.

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Re : New prospective father

Postby deerhart » Tue Feb 17, 2004 10:22 am

Paul
You may also want to contact APEC, which is the Action on PreEclampsia in England
http://www.apec.org.uk/

They have tons of information on the condition that they can forward out to you as well as some things that are more specific to England.

I know its hard to stay calm, but it really is one of the best things you can do for your wife, to reassure her and to see that her and the baby get the best care possible.

GL
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