Hi there - so glad to hear that you have someone coming to help out. We didn't and don't live near family, so I know how difficult it can be. Hopefully, you'll be able to figure something that will work for everyone.
I can understand why you would be so scared about another abruption. It is a very scary and serious experience. I had one with my second and afterwards, was determined to find out all I could about it.
The great news is that your wife is being watched closely now. Great healthcare is the most important part of wonderful outcomes. I will tell you that after your first abruption, chances of having another increase with each ocurrence. Right now, the chances that there could be a repeat are 10-17%. There are ways that the physician can watch for this, bloodwork and ultrasounds are greatly helpful. BUT the best way to watch is to know the symptoms and pay attention, at the slightest feeling of anything that doesn' seem "right" - - head to L&D.
As I am sure you know, the symptoms typically are back pain, Upper quadrant pain, a feeling of "indigestion", contraction like symptoms, nausea, and bleeding of any sort, significant or little.
PE definitely contributes to the incidence of abruptions, but they can also be caused by other factors; age, accident, gestational diabetes, and unhealthy lifestyles choices. Usually with PE (and women with clotting issues), little clots can develope behind the placenta, which pushes it off of the uterus.
Rest is key to helping with PE and the potential of another abruption.....Kara was so right when she said that many times, PE can go from bad to worse in a heartbeat. Just pay close attention and rest rest rest.
Looking forward to hearing that Mom, baby and the rest of the family are all healthy and home.