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2nd-time Dad

Postby stevep » Sun Sep 05, 2004 04:19 pm

by stevep (2 Posts), Sun Sep 05, 2004 04:19 pm

My wife is 37 weeks, and was hospitalised on Saturday with pre-eclampsia.
Our first daughter has just had her 2nd birthday, totally straightforward pregnancy and birth; naturally, we were hoping for the same again this time around.

I'm just trying to find out more about what we're dealing with here.
My wife's bp has been varying from /82 - /94; it's currently down to /84 after 36h in hospital. Her protein was +3, latest measure is +2.
I've been going around the nhs.uk webpages, and now I'm totally confused about the chances for both mother and baby. Not knowing what we're facing makes me more scared - it's nighttime now, and my wife phoned a few hours ago with the result that they're keeping her in hospital.
When I go back to the hospital in the morning, I've got to be her strength; can somebody give me some straight talk on what could happen from here?

??? It seems that with it being such a late time in the pregnancy, chances are better than if it was diagnosed earlier ???

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Re : 2nd-time Dad

Postby annegarrett » Sun Sep 05, 2004 04:42 pm

by annegarrett (2525 Posts), Sun Sep 05, 2004 04:42 pm

Hi Steve,

I am sorry to hear that the 2nd pregnancy is getting complicated. Actually--I want to assure you that really all the news is good--1) 37 weeks is considered "term" (I had a baby at 36 and one at 38 and both are very (VERY) active healthy boys. Sometimes P/E occurs much earlier and that is scary for everyone. At 37 weeks--you can expect that the baby will not likely need to be in the NICU, and will be able to come home with you.

2) She is in the hospital. This is where she should be if she has proteinuria and elevated BP. She may be induced soon--if they talk about giving steroid shots--then they are planning to deliver.

3) Her BP is coming down. I don't know if she is on medication in the hospital, or if she is just on bedrest but that is good news--if that changes (if the BP goes back up, or her proteinuria goes back up) expect her to be induced. They may go straight for a c-section if all goes haywire--which unfortunately, with this disease, can happen. That is why it is great that she is in the hospital.

4) She has you--and you are asking all the right questions and looking for moral support. You will be amazed what a difference that will make for you--and then by extension her. She needs to know that you are there and will ask the questions that need to be asked. Not that you would--but if her doctors want to deliver early--I would not argue. Ask, absolutely, why, but trust that they want to keep her pregnant as long as possible--but at this point--depending on how the disease is progressing, it is best to be safer. Safer with preeclampsia oftentimes means delivering the baby.

Let us know how everything is going. Also-0--check out the English group Action on Pre-eclampsia (APEC). They have a great support network there and if you are English, (I am just assuming because of the nhs.uk reference) you can call for support and advice. We have their link on our Links page.

Take care,



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Re : 2nd-time Dad

Postby julie f » Mon Sep 06, 2004 12:18 am

by julie f (7993 Posts), Mon Sep 06, 2004 12:18 am

Steve,

I can't possibly add more to what Anne has already mentioned but, I just wanted to let you know that my thoughts are with and your wife. I know this is a scary time but, I pray that you will soon be bringing home a healthy baby and mommy!

Please keep us updated!

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Miracle in progress... #2 is due February 2005!!!

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Re : 2nd-time Dad

Postby stevep » Mon Sep 06, 2004 03:12 pm

by stevep (2 Posts), Mon Sep 06, 2004 03:12 pm

About 4h after posting here, I got a phone call that my wife was having pains - not sure if it was contractions or something else.
By the time I got to hospital (a 10 minute journey) my beautiful new daughter was nearly born - I arrived just in time to see the head emerge.
I can't understand the workings of God, I just praise Him that
** mother and daughter are doing fine. **
Now aged 18 hours old, born 6lb 13oz (3.1kg), feeding okay.
A few totally minor complications, compared to what I'd been expecting us to have to work through... daughter only cried briefly at first but then after a little time on the resusication(?) table was eventually declared "fine" by the senior pediatrician; also the placenta had to be manually removed as the cord broke.

My heart goes out to those who really suffer pre-eclampsia; simply facing the possibility scared me witless.
I thank God for His generosity, even though I can't begin to understand it.

Thanks also to Anne and Julie for such great support in a (brief) time of need. It's clear that you're doing excellent work.

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Re : 2nd-time Dad

Postby mada » Mon Sep 06, 2004 03:18 pm

by mada (4081 Posts), Mon Sep 06, 2004 03:18 pm

Steve,
Congrats on your baby girl! I am so glad that things are going well with your wife and daughter.

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Re : 2nd-time Dad

Postby ann marie » Mon Sep 06, 2004 05:12 pm

by ann marie (1034 Posts), Mon Sep 06, 2004 05:12 pm

Congratulations on your healthy baby girl!! Best wishes,

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Re : 2nd-time Dad

Postby julie f » Mon Sep 06, 2004 08:52 pm

by julie f (7993 Posts), Mon Sep 06, 2004 08:52 pm

Congratulations to you and your wife on your new baby girl!!!

Julie (27)
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Re : 2nd-time Dad

Postby sandy » Tue Sep 07, 2004 08:12 am

by sandy (1138 Posts), Tue Sep 07, 2004 08:12 am

Thank goodness for such a favorable outcome. How are you all doing now?

Welcome to your new baby girl!

~Sandy/DD born via emergency C at 35 wks/1 day June '03 due to Severe PE/class III HELLP

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Re : 2nd-time Dad

Postby sarab » Tue Sep 07, 2004 09:14 am

by sarab (2950 Posts), Tue Sep 07, 2004 09:14 am

Steve,

Congratulations on the new addition!! I'm so glad that everything went smoothly and that both mom and baby girl are doing well!

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Re : 2nd-time Dad

Postby annegarrett » Tue Sep 07, 2004 09:57 am

by annegarrett (2525 Posts), Tue Sep 07, 2004 09:57 am

Congratulations and thanks for your kind words. Share our site with your doctor and hospital--maybe it can help another family in your situation!

Take care and glad everything turned out well for all of you!

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