Assistance during bedrest

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Re : Assistance during bedrest

Postby hfwarner3 » Mon Feb 21, 2005 03:58 am

No issues last night. I am getting the kids up now to get them ready. I have written down all her BPs and the other symptoms since Thursday. I have also written down my questions. All ready to go. I will update this afternooon or tonight when I get a chance.

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Re : Assistance during bedrest

Postby gordon k » Sun Feb 20, 2005 08:24 pm

Nothing really much to say or add.

If it were my wife, I'd take her in at the first sign of a red flag and not continue to wait.

Hopefully your wife stays stable.


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Re : Assistance during bedrest

Postby sweetiesuzy » Sun Feb 20, 2005 03:52 pm

I am now just reading all that has happened over the past days. I must say you are staying strong and doing all the right things. I am really encouraging you though - to PLEASE NOT hesitate to go to the hospital EVER! The headaches you were describing had me in a sweat here. Laura's post says it all - headaches are not to be ignored. Worst case senerio is that you go in and she gets the pain under control and a nero evaluation - and all is OK for now. I would hate for your wife to have a seizure at home or black out.

Sorry for being such a downer, but I am truly worried and I care about your wife and the baby. Keep us posted.


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Re : Assistance during bedrest

Postby lucy » Sun Feb 20, 2005 12:28 am

Hang in there it can be tough but I am sure you know it will all be worth it when you get that little bundle iny our arms, keep keeping us updated.

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Re : Assistance during bedrest

Postby dja » Sun Feb 20, 2005 11:37 am

The roller coaster is so hard, but I'm really happy to hear that you've made it to 28 weeks. This is such an important milestone. Longer of course is better, but 28 weeks is really great.

I also wanted to concur with someone else who posted here. When I was sick in my last pregnancy, I really got to a point where I wasn't thinking straight. We didn't know this was something that can happen with PE, but it did. I know my DH regrets not being more aggressive in deciding that "yes, we're going to L&D like it or not." This time around, he's been very supportive again, and I haven't been sick, but he's knows the importance of stepping in if I get a little wacky. Not only is this okay, it is critical. I'm glad your wife has a DH like you supporting her during this whole process. Please continue to keep us posted.

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Re : Assistance during bedrest

Postby hfwarner3 » Sun Feb 20, 2005 11:27 am

We are 28 weeks. She is continuing to do better today. It is the complete inconsistency and unpredictablility that make this so tough.

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Re : Assistance during bedrest

Postby mada » Sun Feb 20, 2005 10:58 am

My prayers are with you all. I have been following your post daily and I am truley amazed how wonderful you and your wife are dealing with this together. How many weeks is she now? TAke good care and please let us know how things progress.

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Re : Assistance during bedrest

Postby denise » Sun Feb 20, 2005 10:14 am

Glad to hear your wife is doing better, and is able to get good rest today. Please keep an eye on her and PE symptoms and call your doc asap. Continuing thoughts your way.

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Re : Assistance during bedrest

Postby hfwarner3 » Sun Feb 20, 2005 09:22 am

She is doing better today symptom-wise. The BP is still high but right on "the line". She is getting more rest today - no visitors and no kids running around screaming like yesterday.

I am making phone calls to arrange childcare. My mother was my primary plan when it came time to take my wife to the hospital and she has come down with pneumonia. I am waiting two messages to be returned. Once I have childcare, I am covered to spend all day with her tomorrow and make sure that the right information is conveyed and the right decisions are made.

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Re : Assistance during bedrest

Postby laura » Sat Feb 19, 2005 09:45 pm

hfwarner, I just wanted to jump in here and mention that "the" preeclampsia headache isn't always correlated with severe hypertension- the common perception is that the concern is that the BP is too high, which causes the headache, and the hypertension is the danger-- but it isn't. The concern with the preeclampsia headache is that it is intercranial swelling- brain edema- which can trigger a seizure or bleeding. If she has that kind of headache, regardless of what her BP is, she really needs to have a neurological evaluation, because there is no way of telling from home whether it is just a garden variety headache or "the" preeclampsia headache. The *only* common factor they were able to identify that most women who developed eclampsia shared was visual disturbances and headache, that's why the symptoms of central nervous system disturbance- visual disturbances, headaches, clonus- are what we here call "get thee to the hospital" situations. Please take care- I sure wish my husband had been as fabulous as you're being with your dear wife, and I wish your family the best of luck.

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