by sam10 (1436 Posts), Thu Sep 12, 2013 07:37 pm
I am so very sorry you lost your mom and sister to preeclampsia, and how it affected your entire life. I very much hope that you will find peace some day, but I understand that this is a very delicate and difficult situation. The one thing that helped me very much was counseling. I found a therapist who was seeing me after the loss of my first child. It has been invaluable on so many levels to seek this kind of help. It made quite a difference. I also saw my therapist throughout my second pregnancy, sometimes twice a week. Secondly, I also looked for the best doctor (specialized in high-risk pregnancies) I could find in my area including the best hospital that I could reach easily if needed. It also helped me to feel in control to know as much as possible about preeclampsia; I could be an "active" patient, able to advocate for myself.
I very much hope you can find a way to make your dream come true and have children of your own. And yes, the medical field has advanced very much in the last 20 years.
Please feel free to post any questions you may have. We are here and will be holding your hand should you decide to become pregnant. Sending you many hugs.
MC 3/2009 and 3/2011Henry
(1/1/2010-1/7/2010) - forever loved and missed; severe PE with Hellp; partial placental abruption, classical c-section at 25.6 weeksMatilda
(Nov. 2012, born at 35.4 weeks) - severe PE
Our pain has been put into words, placed into empty cradles, to remember that all our babies lived, that they mattered and always will. - Field of Cradles http://www.fieldofcradles.org/