For those of you that had your tubes tied....

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Re : For those of you that had your tubes tied....

Postby annes » Mon Nov 30, 2009 12:01 am

Suzanne, I did have my tubes tied during my last section, and I really have only had a couple of small twinges of sadness, usually when my kids are being adorable. But I did want to let you know I was thinking of you. Take care of yourself.

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Re : For those of you that had your tubes tied....

Postby rebecca2 » Mon Nov 30, 2009 10:48 am

Suzanne, I haven't had my tubes tied. However, I did want to say that if you change your mind down the road and want to have another baby, there if always IVF. It is by no means cheap, but it is an option.

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Re : For those of you that had your tubes tied....

Postby surefoott » Mon Nov 30, 2009 09:05 am

Yes, I had a very hard time about the tubal and dealing with it afterward. I'm not going to lie; I basically had regrets until I was no longer in the child-bearing years. Alot of women, as I discovered, do need help getting 'over it.' if they ever do. And yes, I did remarry and wished so much I had not had it done. I'm not trying to discourage you; just being honest here. My daughter has talked about having one and she does not have any underlying issues to worry about and I am so discouraging her from it. She is only 34, has a 17 year old and a one year old, and has essentially breezed through both pregnancies. I just pray she doesn't make a permanent decision yet. All that being said, I know you had valid reasons for it and they all make sense. I think our hearts just don't see the reason that our minds do. My thoughts are with you on this; I can so relate.

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Re : For those of you that had your tubes tied....

Postby hannahsmom » Sun Nov 29, 2009 10:03 am

Thank you, ladies, for sharing your stories. They made me feel better. Hopefully as time goes on, I will feel better about my decision.

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Re : For those of you that had your tubes tied....

Postby southerngirl108 » Fri Nov 27, 2009 09:11 pm

I am 30 years old and I had my tubal done during my c-section with Noah. My husband and I would love to have more children, and during my last pregnancy (before complications hit) we even talked about wanting more. But once I was put on bedrest we felt that was the Lord's way of telling us 2 is what He had planned for us. I talked with my OB about it and she said "given the fact you've had two complicated pregnancies, I think a tubal is a responsible decision". So, I'm sad that Noah is my last baby, but I also know is was the right decision for me and my husband. I have not had any regrets so far, but that's not to say I won't later on.

I'm sure your hormones are just getting the better of you, and the issues with your DH aren't helping matters. Hugs to you!!!

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Re : For those of you that had your tubes tied....

Postby sheri-ct » Fri Nov 27, 2009 07:21 pm

I didn't need to get my tubes tied (endo took care of that for me:( ), but I can relate. I swore that I never wanted to be pregnant again and I hated the end of my pregnancy, but now I'm sad that I'l never be able to do it again. And I'm 41! The time is going too quickly and it makes me sad to watch Meredith get so big. And I also agree wit the others about the hormones, you will feel less sad as time passes. (((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))

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Re : For those of you that had your tubes tied....

Postby aundapenner » Fri Nov 27, 2009 03:53 pm

(((hugs)))

Be gentle with yourself. And trust yourself too. You made the decision based not just on temporary things (the joy of holding a newborn) but for the long-term - and for your children.

I was unsure during my pregnancy with Sofia about having a tubal and opted to wait. I have an appointment next week though with my OB/GYN to schedule the surgery. It makes me sad to think I will not have any more biological children, but if we ever decide we want more, we will know that my health will not be at risk and we will adopt.


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Re : For those of you that had your tubes tied....

Postby hols537 » Fri Nov 27, 2009 07:24 am

I wrote a long reply a few days ago and I guess it didn't post. So, I'm trying again.

I had my tubes tied after Jonathan was born too. Yes, sometimes I'm sad that there won't be more babies, but I always remember that the decision was not made about babies, it was made about pregnancies. They're too risky and we (me, my husband and my doctors) decided it was the right thing.

Hang in there through the hormones and enjoy those kids!

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Re : For those of you that had your tubes tied....

Postby mellybute » Fri Nov 27, 2009 01:06 am

I just had my tubes tied after the birth of baby boy #2 on August 2, 2009. I too knew even before the PE really hit in this pregnancy that my body could not handle another pregnancy. It was a decision I made from the beginning and something I guess my intuition told me it should be my last. The PE just confirmed that for me.

And yes, it makes me sad. I don't regret it but now that my son is here and in the smiley cooing cute as a button phase, I get sad thinking he will be my last baby. I am just trying to soak up every moment and enjoy his sweet little face as much as I can.

I think had my body and pregnancies cooperated a little better, I would have tried for 3. I think if I would have started younger it could have happened for me maybe. I am 35.

Part of me is sad about it being my last and part of me is THRILLED that I will never be pregnant again!!! :-)

I am happy for what I have been given and remind myself how LUCKY I truly am!!

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Re : For those of you that had your tubes tied....

Postby fiona » Wed Nov 25, 2009 10:26 pm

Suzanne, I agree with Catherine. I had my tubal when I had Sacha - I was 38. Yes, I still get the odd twinge of baby-fever when I see a newborn, or think about Sacha starting school next year. But, honestly, I also know that I am darned lucky to have the two living boys I have - and my body just isn't built for baby-making.

Hormones are horrible things, but once the post-natal surge is over it's surprising how quickly your brain starts kicking back into gear and putting it all back into perspective.


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