Yes, I had a very hard time about the tubal and dealing with it afterward. I'm not going to lie; I basically had regrets until I was no longer in the child-bearing years. Alot of women, as I discovered, do need help getting 'over it.' if they ever do. And yes, I did remarry and wished so much I had not had it done. I'm not trying to discourage you; just being honest here. My daughter has talked about having one and she does not have any underlying issues to worry about and I am so discouraging her from it. She is only 34, has a 17 year old and a one year old, and has essentially breezed through both pregnancies. I just pray she doesn't make a permanent decision yet. All that being said, I know you had valid reasons for it and they all make sense. I think our hearts just don't see the reason that our minds do. My thoughts are with you on this; I can so relate.