by annes (2527 Posts), Fri Mar 19, 2004 12:28 am
I'm sure that someone has also given you this little passage from Erma Bombeck, but I like it, and they had it up in the NICU that my son was in. Good luck with your little one.
THE SPECIAL MOTHER by Erma Bombeck
Did you ever wonder how mothers of premature children are chosen?
Somehow I visualize God hovering over Earth selecting his instruments for propogation with great care and deliberation. As he observes, He instructs His angels to make notes in a giant ledger.
"Armstrong, Beth; son. Patron saint...give her Gerard. He's used to profanity."
"Forrest, Marjorie; daughter. Patron saint, Cecilia."
"Rutlegde, Carrie; twins. Patron saint, Matthew."
Finally He passes a name to an angel and smiles. "Give her a premature child." The angel is curious. "Why this one God? She's so happy." "Exactly," smiles God, "Could I give a premature child to a mother who does not know laughter? That would be cruel."
"But has she patience?" asks the angel. "I don't want her to have too much patience or she will drown in a seas of self-pity and despair. Once the shock and resentment wears off, she'll handle it."
"I watched her today. She has that feeling if self and independence that is so rare and so necessary in a mother. You see, the child I'm going to give her has her own world. She has to make her live in her world and that's not going to be easy."
"But, Lord, I don't think she even believes in you." God smiles, "No matter, I can fix that. This one is perfect-she has just enough selfishness." The angel gasps- "selfishness? is that a virtue?"
God nods. "If she can't separate herself from the child occassionally, she'll never survive. Yes, here is a woman whom I will bless with a child less than perfect. She doesn't realize it yet, but she is to be envied. She will never take for granted a 'spoken word'. She will never consider a 'step' ordinary. When here child says 'Momma' for the first time, she will be present at a miracle, and will know it! I will permit her to see clearly the things I see...ignorance, cruelty, prejudice...and allow her to rise above them. She will never be alone. I will be at her side every minute of everyday of her life, because she is doing My work as surely as if she is here by My side."
"And what about her patron saint?" asks the angel, his pen poised in mid-air.
God smiles, "A mirror will suffice."
Parker 7/6/03(severe pe)33wks